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  Can someone help me find

  by jwNOT in

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  .........threads that have copies of official wbts letters and documents or anything else that may help me compose a letter to elder father.

  i am 32 years old and still cannot communicate to him verbally how i feel.

  so i am going to write it down.

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  .........Threads that have copies of official WBTS letters and documents or anything else that may help me compose a letter to elder father. I am 32 years old and still cannot communicate to him verbally how I feel. So I am going to write it down. It will probably take me weeks to write this letter but I feel like I need to do it so that I can begin to heal.

  A week or so ago I saw a post here about how hard it is to just talk to people since we no longer have a prepared sermon. (such as for ministry school or door to door) When I read that I realized just how much my life is affected from being raised a JW. I have a terrible time expressing myself. It is difficult for me to parent my children because I am afraid of making them feel like I did as a child. My JW brother is getting married soon and I have done nothing but cry about this because I know that when he has kids that they will actually have involved grandparents.

  Anyway I would appreciate any help you can give me.
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  SCHIAVO

  by SixofNine in

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  herr commandant!

  i know, i know, i'm goin' to hell for that... but you're going to hell for having an opinion on it in the first place.

  it's nonya bidness.

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  I am not sure about how I feel about this particular case. I am torn because I am not sure I trust the husbands motive.
  
  Anyway, a few years back I worked for our county MR/DD school. We had several clients (adults and children) that didn't function as much as Terri Schiavo. They had feeding tubes. Some of these people with PROPER treatment were able to regain some of their abilities. The parents of these people would never dream of removing the feeding tube and letting them starve to death.
  
  The animal shelter doesn't starve unwanted pets. It is against the law to starve a dog to death. Why doesn't this same standard apply to people?
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  I can't get the Memorial song out of my head!!!

  by ohiocowboy in

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  argh!!!

  since i woke up this morning, i have been finding myself humming the song for the memorial tonight.

  it is really freaky.

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  I haven't been to the hall in years. The last JW function I was at was my grandmothers funeral in 98. I still catch myself humming "Can you see with your minds eye people living together...blah blah blah".. or something like that. That song was so dreadful that I wished I was in the casket instead so i wouldn't have to hear it. Funny thing was my grandmother hadn't been to the hall in years. She kind of faded because of the way her her grandchildren were treated for not believing. She didn't care what anyone said she was not shunning anyone.
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  My Aunt Loyal Wife and Uncle Smooth Talking Elder

  by jwNOT in

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  my aunt loyal wife and uncle smooth talking elder were married over 30 years.

  they had 4 children and he owned a small business.

  he always employed witnesses.

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  My Aunt Loyal Wife and Uncle Smooth Talking Elder were married over 30 years. They had 4 children and he owned a small business. He always employed witnesses. One of his employees, Unnatractive Single Sister, worked for him for years. She would go out of town with him "for business" while Aunt Loyal Wife stayed at home with the kids. Once as a teenager, my cousin, Wordly Stripper, caught Smmoth Talking Elder and Unnatractive Single Sister making out. He tried to tell but of course no one would believe him. Years later, my cousin, Bethel Model, (she was on the cover of Awake several months ago praying), got married. I don't know what happened but at the last minute she decided Elder was not walking her down the aisle. I later found out that all hell had broke loose in the family but it was covered up and kept secret. Aunt Loyal moved to Hawaii with 2 of her kids. I guess she suspected that he was having an affair. They ended up getting back together. He was able to convince her that there had been no affair. Aunt Loyal was even friends with Unnatractive. Somehow the rumors started again and Aunt Loyal asked Uncle to let Unnatractive go as an employee. He refused. Aunt Loyal moved back to Hawaii. Uncle got rid of all her belongings, even family heirlooms. I guess now there is no doubt that there was an affair. But there is no proof. I guess the act would have to be witnessed by two...LOL. So Aunt Loyal will not get a divorce , just a seperation. He does pay alimony. He lost his position as Elder. Unnatractive still works for him. Neither was disfellowshipped. They continue to see each other. That is just wrong!
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  My JW brother is dating

  by jwNOT in

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  ha!

  a few months ago my jw father and stepmother took me and my kids to a movie (rated g...lol).

  anyway my grown jw brother who still lives with them called on their cell phone and he was planning on his "friend" coming over.

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  Well, he called me the other day to let me know he is getting married. They have been engaged a week now and are already having the invitations made. They are inviting over 300 people. I asked him how he proposed to her. He giggled and told me that they met at the hall and went to Applebees later so he proposed to her the same way they met. He acted like he had something to do at the hall so he took her with him. Once there both sets of parents ran out from hiding and he proposed. Then they all went out to Applebees. How DUMB!!!!! He wanted to know if I will be at the wedding. I will go but I already dread the thought of being the worldly one in a room of 300. I think that might be the day I turn into an alcoholic. He kept beating around the bush in our conversation and I was hoping he might ask for my kids to be part of the wedding. But that didn't happen. I got a 50 dollar bill and a card when I got married. I bet they go all out for him.
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  My JW brother is dating

  by jwNOT in

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  ha!

  a few months ago my jw father and stepmother took me and my kids to a movie (rated g...lol).

  anyway my grown jw brother who still lives with them called on their cell phone and he was planning on his "friend" coming over.

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  Ha! A few months ago my JW father and stepmother took me and my kids to a movie (rated g...LOL). Anyway my grown JW brother who still lives with them called on their cell phone and he was planning on his "friend" coming over. My stepmother told him that if the girl was coming over she would be home immediately to provide some supervision. Are couples not allowed to be alone at all before marriage? The have been dating for 6-8 months. It really ticks me off because I know they will go all out for his wedding and I know when he has kids they will be wonderful grandparents. I didn't even get a card when I got married and they only see my kids 2 or 3 times a year and then we have to go somewhere, we can't just hang out at their house.
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  As a JW did you "take a turkey" or accept the Xmas Bonus?

  by confusedjw in

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  i felt it hypocritical to take a turkey abviously meant for thanksgiving.

  i didn't like buying the easter candy after easter either as it was "food sacrificed to idols".. years ago at a place i worked they gave out a xmas bonus which i returned.

  ( a few hundred dollars which we sure could have used) they assured me that it was an "end of the year" bonus.

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  Several years ago I started a job as a bus aide a few days before Christmas. At the time i was a single mother with 3 children. All of the women took up collection of food items and cash to give to me the day before Christmas. Three of the women in the group were witnesses. One was my Aunt and her sister-in-law and her best friend. They contributed too. It was clearly meant to be a Christmas present. I was kind of embarrassed to take it since my witness Aunt was there. But she pulled me aside and said "Girl, you better take this food. You know you and your girls can use it. And you can get yourself something with the money."

  These 3 witnesses were all bus drivers and they accepted the gifts the passengers brought them for Christmas.
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  Help needed with kids

  by jwNOT in

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  i was raised in a very strict jw home.

  some of it was downright abusive.

  now i am a mother with 4 children.

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  I was raised in a very strict JW home. Some of it was downright abusive. Now I am a mother with 4 children. I tend to not follow through on punishments because I am so afraid of making my children feel the same way I did as a child. So of course they are walking all over me. I have tons of health problems and dealing with the constant bickering isn't helping things. I hold in all my frustration and then just seem to blow up. Any suggestions would be appreciated!
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  "Kids say the darndest things."

  by formerout in

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  i have personally been reading a lot more of the "serious" posts lately and thought it would be good for me (and hopefully others) to share a bit of humour.

  i will start by telling a funny little story about what my six year-old daughter said this weekend:.

  i played touch football this fall on weekends.

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  Several weeks ago we had a goldfish die. I tried to sneak and flush it away. Unfortunately my 3 year old son caught me. He asked me where the fish was going. I told him it was going to heaven to be with God.

  Last week my son used his potty chair. I took it into the bathroom to empty it. He comes in and flushes the toilet. He started waving and said: "Bye Bye stinkies...See you in heaven!"

  It was sooooo funny!!!
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  Would like to introduce myself

  by jwNOT in

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  i am so grateful to have found this site.

  i got so excited reading everyones posts.

  i was raised a jw up intil i was around 13 or so.

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  I am so grateful to have found this site. I got so excited reading everyones posts. I was raised a JW up intil I was around 13 or so. Up until then I lived with my father who is an elder and my stepmother who is a pioneer. I was never baptized but still feel like my family shuns me for leaving.

  I moved in with my mother and went a little crazy for awhile. I have since settled down. Being raised in that mess still affects me to this day. My stepmother was very abusive and I was taught to keep my mouth shut! So I find it now really hard to talk to others. Every year i feel like I am being bad when I put up my Christmas tree. Although my Dad very rarely comes around I get scared that now is the time he will show up. I hide my cigarettes when he comes around. I won't even mention to him that I go to church. I think it hurts me more that they don't have anything to do with my kids.

  I am now 32 and still feel like a child and I have to learn to get over that. I think by coming here and talking with people that know EXACTLY what I am going thru will help me heal.

  I am looking forward to getting to know all of you!