Before we go on, perhaps you might define what you mean by 'tradional understanding of the term'.
See below... :) "People generally use the term "unconditional love" to mean the absolute most love that a person can have and don't stick to the dictionary definition of the word unconditional."
Jeannie, this implies a condition. It can no longer be described as 'unconditional'
As I've stated, I do not believe that it can be described as unconditional in the current dictionary sense but whose to say that all of humanity are bound to follow the narrow definitions set in a dictionary? Do not meanings change for words over time? You only have to get ahold of a dictionary from 10 years ago to see words take on different meanings based upon common usage. For me, it is okay that people say that they have unconditional love even though I believe that there is a limit because I believe that they know that too. I say that there is nothing that my kids could do to make me not love them, and that is what I will tell them and anyone who asks. However, I know that somewhere out there exists a circumstance that would separate me from the love of my kids or vice versa.
The problem is that a logic based word is being used to try to describe something that runs much deeper in the human psyche: emotion. Mankind has tried its best to understand emotion, to box it into a defined category, to analyze it and dissect it and make it an exact science. Mankind has failed miserably because I will submit to you and everyone else that this is impossible to do. The problem is not whether or not there is unconditional love, but that the word does not exist to describe what this special love is. Perhaps unconditional is the closest word that we have and we use it because it is as close as we can get at this time.