wife's committee meeting

by tepic 82 Replies latest members private

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  BrendaCloutier

  Tepic and Mrs. Tepic.

  I am so very sorry for your experience of such "unconditional love". Mrs. I hope you have found what you needed to begin your recovery from JW-ism. I cannot help but think it is for the better. Mr. You are a wonderful, loving and caring husband. Your wife is a lucky woman to have you. (too bad you didn't go into the meeting to support her, she might have not had to endure this level of trauma. but hindsight...)

  I, too have had these emotional blackouts. For me they are caused by the threats of emotional and physical violence. When I am confronted by such, my mind goes away for protection. I've been known to curl up in the fetal possition during a verbal attack. I thank god it has been almost 8 years since I've had to endure one of these experiences. I am no longer with a person who triggers them.

  God bless you both!

  Love and hugs

  Brenda

  PS, I agree, I wish you had called the medics.
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  melmac

  Sorry to hear that.

  My GF occasionally has "blackouts", but those are short-lived and very few and far in between. Anyway, it scares her. Let alone a "meek, sheeplike person" being harassed by 4 insensitive men, supposed to have some kind of authority over her...

  What I really feel like saying is: THOSE ELDER ARE FREAKS!!! THEY NOT ONLY CAUSE UNDESCRIBABLE PAIN AND SUFFERING, BUT THEY LIKE TO DO IT. And I'm not even addressing the purely spiritual side. Those guys are sadics. They show no consideration whatsoever. And to think that "the Holy Spirit"has chosen them?

  I don't think they are "just victims". Maybe many elders are. But there comes a point when they really LIKE to cause pain, then the excuse doesn't hold water. They are like nazi officials who claimed they were just "following orders".

  May God give you peace of mind. May he heal your souls. We send you our best wishes.
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  Odrade

  Elders are victims, huh? Well, I guess, SOME of them are, SOME of them really have fallen victim to believing they are doing the right thing, and spend many sleepless nights worrying about how to protect the flock...

  But,

  I'll bet that MANY elders make it "to the top" because they like to be in charge and push people around. These are the guys who relish the "headship arrangement," and never fail to remind people (especially sisters) of their "god-given authority." bleh.

  My father belongs to the former group, my brother, sad to say, the latter. He has no business being an elder. I sometimes wonder though, if it's the power that corrupts the personality, or the personality that simply uses the opportunities power provides. Maybe it's both. chicken and egg.

  Although it's interesting, I wonder if people don't challenge the power-hungry ones because sometimes they are the most influential, give the best talks, conduct the best WT study, make the meeting somewhat interesting... I don't know. something else to ponder.
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  Thinking

  I am sorry too, for what you are going through. I was outraged all this am ( I wanted to post before I went to work but did not have time) I came home for lunch to see how you were doing.
  
  When I was DF, I was in a room with three elders. It is very intimidating. There is no one there to represent you or support you. Everything they are saying does not register as this is a very emotional time. Afterall, they are deciding in a very short time the fate of your life. When I left the meeting, I was so distraught I don't know how I ever drove home.
  
  I think it is very wrong to do this. No elder would talk to a sister alone. No person goes to court without some kind of representation or support.
  
  I remember someone asking me what the elders said in the committee meeting. I said I don't know, I don't remember. My head was swimming. All I could think of was I left all my friends in the world and now I am going to be cut
  off from my new freinds. How was I ever going to make it?
  
  I don't know what your wife could have done that was so bad to be treated this way, after what seems like so many years of loyal service to bring so many into the truth.
  
  Obviously, she is repentant, and the treatment directed towards her is very cruel. What a way for the ones she brought to learn about God for them to learn love and forgiveness.
  
  
  Again, my heart goes out to you in this traumatic time.
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  upside/down

  Where's a baseball bat when you need it?

  I swear if I ever end up in the backroom (probably never happen) again... about 15 minutes into it I'll just stand up, pull my pants down to my ankles and run screaming out of that room saying... oh gawd help me.. keep them away.. keep them away. Then call 911 and let them know how it feels for a change!

  u/d (of the tooth for a tooth class)
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  franklin J

  tepic,

  I am so sorry for you and your wife.

  Get as far away from them as you can. They have no kindness nor do they have any love.

  good luck to you,

  been there, done that,

  Frank
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  loosie

  Tepic,

  This is my favorite when it comes down to asking other people to show love.

  "To the extent that you did to least one of these my brothers you did it to me." Matt. 25:40.

  So basically Jesus was at the hall and needed love shown to him and the elders said they have other things to do. I wouldn't want to be in their shoes.

  Your wife has my sympathies I know what it is like to be a female in a committee meeting.
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  dostprefer

  Re: wife's committee meeting

  I don't know what you have written in your post but consider this:

  Doesn't a man who loves his wife always treasure her and fight to protect her from harm?

  Would such a man expose her (albeit anonymously) to the prying eyes of those who may hate her religion? And furthermore give details of her private life, betraying confidences

  . Isn't a loved wife worth more than that?

  This kind of treatment will surely destroy the marriage. Either way. Plenty of folks around here know all about that.
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  AlmostAtheist

  Doesn't a man who loves his wife always treasure her and fight to protect her from harm?

  Would such a man expose her (albeit anonymously) to the prying eyes of those who may hate her religion? And furthermore give details of her private life, betraying confidences

  I really cannot believe you said this. After all I've seen, I wouldn't have believed I could be shocked by JW "reasoning", but you did it.

  Congratulations.

  Dave
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  Gopher

  Dostprefer,

  You have no business preaching to TEPIC because you didn't even take time to consider what he said.

  I don't know what you have written in your post

  His post was about the MEETING, and any information about his wife just served to highlight the moral bankruptcy of the so-called shepherds in that congregation.

  From experience, I know what it's like to be in a meeting where the elders are rushing to judgment, and it is disheartening, especially when you had thought (incorrectly) that they actually care. And then they get up in front of the congregation and talk about love.