Ok. What do you suggest I do then? I don't think there is any other way
The trick is to engage the heart of the Witness, not the mind. They have rehearsed and prepared for any kind of intellectual response. What they are not prepared for is genuine, heart-to-heart communication, and empathy. Both giving and receiving. To know how to reach YOUR witness, you must know their innermost thoughts and desires. Ask them questions about their past, interests, hobbies, and desires. ANYTHING that does not fit the witness profile. In that journey of discovery, you will find the key to get them out.
To give you an idea of the depth of research you need, you may fill out Steve Hassan's "Ex-Cultist Background Information" form. You ay use the form without submitting it to him, but it is a great tool to help you organize your own thoughts and strategy.
and you did not show me how to put paragraphs in my sentences when I post lol
The fix all depends on the internet browser you are using. I use Internet Explorer, so I can "fix" the posts just by opening them. If you are using firefox or something else, the fix is more complex and other posters will likely have your fix. Check out the Technical Support discussions section of this board.