Well...after another chat, my ex has had a change of heart. Rather, I should say he was driven to tears after I showed him something Alamb sent me! He said that I was 'unbelievably low' to 'threaten him' and "use him" this way. I tried to explain it wasn't about him, but that it was about my sister's behavior. My husband tried to explain that as well, but the ex refused to see it. He has said though that he will 'comply' (interesting he used that Borg term!) he hates doing it and is only doing so because's he's being forced. Because he's so afraid I'll take him to court and restrict his access to take my daughter to the Hall. He flatly denied ever telling my daughter I would die at armageddon (course he swore also to my husband that the Society doesn't judge people! HA!) He went so far as to dramatically 'forbid' my daughter to say that she'd heard such a thing again.
As I type this, my ex just called and told my husband that he phoned my sister (something I did not want, or ask him to do, he is creating needless drama, another way he likes to stir up problems) and informed her not to call, write, mail, or contact my daughter when she is with him. My sister had the guts to ask if that "meant her husband, too?!" !!!!!!!!!! Can you say, already looking for a way around my ex!
I fully expect this isn't the end of this. He's going to pitch a fit eventually, and I fully expect my phone to ring tomorrow and my sister to call. I'm going to wait a few days to answer if she calls, I need to gather my thoughts, so my husband and I can tell them, together, that as long as she maintains these views that I am bad just because I am not a JW, that she cannot, and will not, have access to my daughter.
But...I wish I believed this could last. I don't think it can.
Thanks everyone, for everything. I am grateful ((((((((((alamb)))))))) you're a gem.