cognac: DoC - Honestly, IMO, just DA'ing yourself is sometimes a lot better of an option. Having to constantly look over your shoulders in case someone "catches" you, gets really old, really quick. It sucks.
Like I said, I'll give you a big "attaboy" if that's what you wanna do.
I don't have to look over my shoulders. I didn't walk(fade) away because I wanted to get involved in some nefarious activity that could get me DFd. I don't have this hankering to put up a Xmas tree or jack-o-lantern or light up a Marlboro or a joint, etc etc and I'm living the good life with the "wife of my youth".
When I do look over my shoulder I get the impression that they'd sure like to think that we were miserable now since we have "left Jehovah", but I'm really enjoying the fact that I don't wear neckties anymore.