With the recent spate of faders being outed, or threats of such behavior, I feel that we all need to be reminded of a fact in the ex-JW community: THERE IS NO GOOD REASON TO OUT A FADER, EVER!
There are a lot of bad things that an ex-JW can do to another ex-JW, but I feel the most egregious thing that someone in our community can do is to out someone that is fading to their JW family. I have seen this happen on different boards, and have seen the ramifications of these callous actions. It infuriates me when someone commits one of these betrayals of trust.
We recently had an older poster, Focus, threaten to out another poster in real life to those who knew him. I applaud Simon for nipping that in the bud and banning Focus from JWN. I hope he did not follow through with his threat. If he does, his name will be indelibly etched on my shitlist.
And today I found out that Julia Barrick Douglas is up to her old tricks again. As a member of wAAWAh, she outed hundreds of people by force adding them to the group's Face Book page last year. This caused untold harm to many faders. One poster that went here by the name of Sic Semper Tyrannis, was disfellowshipped directly due to that, and was disinherited by his family. Now she did it again because of a dispute with another poster here. In my book, I would call her a douchebag, but that would be hitting her below her rotted ovaries.
The betrayals that are absolutely unforgivable are the people that "out" someone for a personal agenda. I have known of people who threaten to out someone because of personal animosity, and have actually gone through with it to hurt that person badly. I know of situations where a romantic interest went awry, and the jilted person "outed" the other to try to get revenge. The people I know that did these things are forever on my shit list; and there are no ameliorative steps they can take to change the affects of their actions, or my opinion of them.
There was a thread started by a long time poster a while ago that might have been the worst threat of outing that I have ever seen. He threatened to out his own son that just got reinstated. I hope he never did it. That poster committed suicide shortly thereafter.
There was a post about the most recent case this morning which was removed. I just want to remind everyone that it is never justified to out anyone, EVER! I do have screenshots of some of it, as do others on this board. If anyone involved would like to comment on this thread, feel free.
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