I suspect Flamegrilled is 'turning the other cheek', but here's something to consider adding to Cofty's list in the meantime:
Cofty, what exactly did you find so unsatisfying with the obvious: the JW version of theodicy?
Even though we know it's only a pipe-dream, it actually offers the most-sophisticated and loving approach to the problem of evil ('natural' or otherwise), claiming EVERYONE who dies before Armageddon (from Hitler to the most-innocent child, overlooking the WT's flip-flops on Sodomites, etc), will be given a second-chance, resurrected into a paradise Earth and given another opportunity to prove their loyalty to a loving God, under conditions where Satan (always the scapegoat) is confined for 1,000 years.
Hence a perfectly valid (and sound) rationale within the JW belief system is that an infant drowned in the tsunami was possibly-saved from a life filled with misery, pain, and eventually death by a loving God, since the infant otherwise would fall into the hands of a child molester where she later became a meth-addicted prostitute, who ODed at 20 (and also gained resurrection). So an early death was actually more-loving for her, since it bought her the same "golden ticket" into a Paradise Earth, but avoided a short lifetime filled with pain and misery in this "corrupt" system of things. Sure, it's speculative, but that's the problem with inductive reasoning: it's trying to forecast (analogous to creating hypotheses), and that allows the imagination to run free, and it's perfectly-valid under the rules of inductive logic (since the threshold is lower vs deductive logic).
And what do we tell the grieving mother, you ask? You all know the answer, since you told others this many times: if she becomes a JW and survives Armageddon, her dead daughter will be resurrected, and both mother and daughter will potentially gain eternal life and live together on a paradise Earth. THAT'S a pretty-darn seductive message to many people, and it's loving for all involved (that is, if it were only true).
Of course, that also presupposes the existence of a prescient God who knows future timelines that are not privvy to, and hence humans have "known unknowns" (and Job acknowledged his maggot-like status when bowed to God's greater knowledge, judgment, and wisdom, and refused to "curse God and die").
And just as Job (a fictional character, set in Ur, some 4,500 yrs ago) couldn't begin to understand things in our modern World if God tried to explain them to him (eg quantum physics), a JW accepts that God has greater knowledge than us modern humans, and we truly wouldn't be able to understand an explanation which God could provide, or even if we could understand, we simply don't have any need to know, which is what the Bible is saying with "God's ways are mysterious" (which is begging the question, of course, since we're talking about a non-existent being).
The JW response obviously crosses the threshold of believability to resolve the theodicy question in the minds of many active JWs, being not just plausible (the threshold in inductive reasoning), but also seductively and painfully-desirable, esp those looking for hope beyond hope who desparately WANT to believe.
(And that's the problem with challenging theodicies: the business of religion is based on providing comfort with a "grand prize" of eternal rewards in Heaven, and they've had millenia to work out the kinks, developing a smorgasborg of options from which to select. It the same problem encountered when debating presuppositional Xian apologetists; it forces the atheist to accept their questionable premises, and the best-possible outcome is a stale-mate, since it gives the theist a HUGE advantage by forcing us to play on their "turf".)
But back to the main point:
You claim flaws in theodicy caused you to lose your belief in God, but didn't the typical JW theodical response work for you? It resolves the all-loving God thing quite well, IF one believes in God. Are you sure theren't nagging doubts emerging before?
The limitation of ALL theodicies is they work ONLY for those who believe in God, since once someone starts questioning God's existence, the placebo benefit of theodocies quickly dissipate, and the cookie starts to crumble.