The trouble with a liar is you can't trust a thing they say--even if they are telling you something you like.
Ain't THAT the tooth, Humbled! ESPECIALLY if they tell you something you'd want to be true.
Confirmation biases is a central theme in the Garden of Eden account, where it was trivially easy for the clever serpent to deceive foolish Eve, who coveted God's forbidden fruit which promised to make her wise. The serpent had an incredibly-low threshold of evidence to overcome her gullibility, as she needed only the slightest-nudge, a plausible explanation and slightest excuse to rationalize her action, to get her to do what she wanted to do. And when stated with emphatic assurance ("you will NOT die!"), that fruit was as good as in her belly....
The Bible thus contains a subtle buried warning of the dangers of confirmation biases, even hiding it's message RIGHT IN PLAIN VIEW! It's an old and clever story (although not exactly original or unique to the Hebrew author, the Yahwist: it's likely based on the same parable found in Pandora's Box, except with slight reworking (Pandora being the same archetypical character as Eve, the women who brought trouble to the World, since Pandora opened the box and all Hell broke loose, with only 'hope' remaining in the box).
Believers who offer theodicies to others are actually trying to comfort and convince NOT just the listener, but also themselves, since that's rationalization which is forefront in THEIR minds (AKA availability heuristic). The fellow believer's criteria for acceptance of any particular theodicy is incredibly-low, since they are in pain and emotionally grasping for ANY answers, and any that makes the least bit of sense will do.
That's the answer to the question I posed above, when I asked 'what changed'?
YOU changed, WE changed, and our values and beliefs shifted not unlike those shifting tectonic plates, where one's Worldview and landscape is irreversibly and premanently changed; we see what should have been blatently obvious to us before, but of which we were blind.
And despite what has been claimed, many theodicies ARE rational (i.e. both valid AND sound), if removed from theology; many make PERFECT sense within their environment (i.e. if you accept the God belief). However, they only operate IF you accept the presuppositions on which they rely, and once you lose your faith, "your eyes are opened" and find out that safety net you had only imagined was underneath you was all in your mind.
That's why religion places utmost value in a certain personality trait, sung about by Reverend Michaels: