Crazyguy. I feel for you, realizing that you have been misled and wanting to share this "truth" with your partner is a very upright thing to do, but the bOrg indoctrination is so strong. Your wife feeling so bad shows that CD is having an affect.
My wife has moved into a different room in the house. She does not greet me in the mornings nor does she say goodnight. Trying to start a conversation about anything is not possible, not even about the weather. But anyway I am there for her, as you are there for your wife.
As for me I am picking up the things I left 28 years ago, I restarted tae-kwon-do, and will restart gliding, things I did before being assimilated.