Former Long Time Elder: Why I am still in

by James Jackson 88 Replies latest jw friends

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  BizzyBee

  I left the organization in my early 20's and found myself very ill-prepared for nearly every aspect of life due to being raised as a JW. I had no real social skills, I was too trusting, naive, lacked critical thinking skills, had no goals or aspirations.

  College helped somewhat, but I was still developmentally way behind. I lacked self-confidence, was needy, and painfully shy. No wonder I married the wrong person - I was still developing and ended up being quite a different person than he expected.

  James, there must be a better way to instill values than bringing up a child in a regressive cult. Are you sure that is your true motivation? Search your heart.
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  OUTLAW

  Then he asked the Big Question: Why are YOU still in? I paused and said: "Because I have a teenage child at home,

  I have to instill some core principles in his life so hopefully he does not go crazy in his adult years like child 1 did".

  Your hoping the WBT$ will instill core principles..

  You want the WBT$ to do your job for you?!..

  They`ll gladly do it..

  They may even be able to turn him against you..

  Dam Right!..Dad is obviously an Apostate!..

  By the time we`re done with the kid, he`ll be so messed up.

  Dad will be History!. .

  

  .....................................OUTLAW
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  wasblind

  

  Core principle 101 _____ Field service

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  OUTLAW

  If your not Picking Cotten..

  You should be Tote`n that Bale and Sing`in..

  Do-da!

  

  .................................OUTLAW
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  wasblind

  Jehovah's Witness children who are not allowed to explore

  things that interest them in school are at risk of fallin' into the wrong crowd

  The wrong crowd are the ones who have no interest in school at all

  and are usually cut off from extra curricular activites

  because of thier grades

  Bein' cut off for one reason or the other gives the witness child somethin'

  in common wit' the wrong crowd and may draw them together

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  fakesmile

  im sure it has been said but im gonna say it. it is YOUR responsibillity to teach your child morals.
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  wasblind

  LOL @ OUTLAW, Lets do field service !!!!!

  Jump down turn around, pick a bale o cotton

  Jump down turn around, pick a bale o hay

  Jump down turn around, go up to a door step

  Jump down turn around, pass a mag- o- zine

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  Quandry

  But what about what your son wants? Does he want to play sports? Be involved in some other activity? Go to college? What are his true interests?

  Have you sat down with him and just had a talk where he was allowed to speak his mind? You might be surprised at his goals or lack of goals.

  If a child thinks that Armageddon is coming soooooon, they may be depressed and lack a sense of future for themselves. Many on this forum stated that they got married young so as to experience a mate before the big A. This is not healthy, either.

  Having an open talk with him will help you know how to proceed.

  I do heartily agree with the others. If he becomes some hard core JW, and after your "soulsearching" you decide to leave the organization, it could come back to bite you-he might end up shunning you completely.
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  jookbeard

  whatever happened to Elderelite?
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  OUTLAW

  LOL!!@Wuz!!..

  ...................... ...OUTLAW