Leavingwt, well, I guess we agree; df'ing was on the horizon for you, so you da'd so you were in control of the decision not them. So far df'ing has not been on the horizon for me. If I da'd I can tell you that would not keep my jw family out of my hair. In essence, I have df'd them, refusing contact. As to any jws that drop by, we have chosen on some occasions not to answer the door, and on some just to say how great things are going and then politely say adieu. We absentee vote due to my disability, we put up lights (all year long), and as I said we refrain from discussions about jw dogma/doctrine with the jws we know under the "no pearls before swine" concept. We have no children, so that is not an issue.
I don't consider "fading" going to 2 meetings out of 3 weekly for 2 years (which may be all that some can do)...eventually you have to make a decision to cut your ties with the KH. After several nasty events by people in our congregation towards us and unloving words from the platform, KH and assembly, we left, and never went back ten years and counting.
Just as good parents protect their children against pedophiles, I feel if we had children, we would educate them to protect them regarding jws.