Another Elder (page 9)

mouthy

Welcome! You know what pleased me most about your post?
When you sat down & saw your wife & kids ....really for the 1st time,knowing
how you didnt have to yell at them to get ready for the brainwashing session.
I am 84 was with them for 25 years.my kids (3 0f them) are dead.I used to
yell at mine also,I feel VERY GUILTY!!!!One daughter)is still with the WT,shuns me,One Great grandkid is
still believing it all,but is liiving with a guy! expects to die at the BIG A.
Still shuns me though.Take GREAT CARE of your wife! She may not accept
the fact you have open eyes.But PLEASE try to straighten your kids minds before to long
My Daughter that died( I raised as a JW) came free before her death.said" MUM
Please keep up the support group( I had one for ex's) because it is CHILD ABUSE!"
GOD Bless.Yes I am a believer in CHRIST> The ONLY WAY!TRUTH!LIFE!!

itscrap&theyknowit!

I feel this is the best thread on here. Maybe because it is so recent.

I can't stop reading this thread. I'm sitting at my desk, at work and just crying.

jean-luc picard

So, what is the longest thread to date?

godrulz

Biblical elders have calling, character, compassion, servant-hearts, etc. Leadership that aspires for control, prestige, power, etc. is corrupt. A sincere person will be corrupted if doing the bidding of a corrupt organization leading to a loss of conscience and ruination of lives.

mythreesons

Burnedout...I too have been where you are. As a former elder and father of 3 young boys, I can totally relate to what you said. I too, used to be stressed out because of the meetings, talks and everything that came with being an elder and a JW. I remember when my eyes were opened to my family as well. Let me tell you....IT WAS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE! I now enjoy simply being a dad and a husband. It is great!

We quit pretty much cold turkey and have never looked back. I can only imagine how my BS detector would be going off now that I'm tuned in to the lies. I'm not on here much, but I hope the best for you and your family!

straightshooter

Welcome and glad you are now part of this wonderful forum.

Doubting Bro

Burnedout - Greetings from another burned out ex-elder!! Your story also sound similar to mine. I'm in the same spot as Bluebrother - warming a seat from time to time, but mentally I'm free and what a relief.

Enjoy your family and the reduction of stress in your life. Look foward to hearing more from you.

life is to short

Welcome

I was an elders wife for 22 years of our 23 and a half year marriage. My husband's bottom line was deleted as elder after being one for 32 years because he could not keep me in line about the fact that we had three child molesters in the hall at one time.

I was taken into the back room alone by one elder who I truly thought was our friend and told to shut up or I would be DF'ed. It was demand of me not to tell any of the family's in the hall about the pedophiles. I was supposed to watch men who have raped kids hold them and take them into the back room alone without the parents knowing that their child was being taken care of by a pedophile.

There was no way in Hades I could do that. It still makes my blood boil when I think of being drugged into that back room alone without my husband and being told I could be DF'ed over this. Yet my husband never fought it. Why was I talked to alone???

I had another elder put his finger in my face yelling at me about how I knew that this one child molester did indeed rape kids. Another time he stuck his finger in my face yelling at me to SHUT UP. All with other elders around no one stood up for me. I got police and court records to prove I was right that these men did rape children and none of the elders would touch them.

Still my husband stuck by the religion until one of the pedophiles shoved him in the hall and that gave the elders reason to delete my husband for casing a seen in the hall. The CO while sitting at my kitchen table told me my husband was in the wrong because I had caused such hostile feeling between myself and the pedophiles that the pedophiles was rightly frustrated.

Anyway I am struggling through years of being a door mat while my husband put the religion before our family.

He is still going to meetings and I hope is waking up but it is hard being where I am right now. One of my husbands favorite sayings to me for years is if you did not like the fact that I was an elder yous should have never married me. I had not a clue that being an elders wife meant that I would not have a husband or else I would not have married him. I did not know being an elder came before family.

My husband put out way more then any of the other elders, he always took on the problem cases in the hall, he did any part that was dumped on him and no one would fill in for him. He had two heart attacks one during the school which he was conducting and he plowed though the meeting before telling me or any one he was have major chest pains.

Then the elders let me his wife drive him alone to the hospital alone because they did not want an ambulance at the KH. Why so Jehovah's name is not looked on badly by having an ambulance in the parking lot? One elder told me that they would make sure someone did the school for him for at least two months so he could recoup but no that never happened he was back up conducting the school the next week after both heart attacks. The other elders did not want the work.

I hate this religion. There is no love.

LITS

mouthy

LIT!!I just hope your hubby opens his eyes SOON!!!

Great that you stood up & was counted ( By GOD) if not by the WT

DesirousOfChange

I saw Elders who were supposedly under the direction of the spirit commit incredible wrongs and continue to serve.

Especially if they were in the right clique'. Porn. Fraud. Embezzlement. Tax cheating. Boozing, even DWIs. The only true "sin" is SEX. I have not seen an admission of adultery/fornication "forgiven" and someone continue to serve. (They just don't admit it.)

Another Elder

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