Brotherdan, I don't recall if I have mentioned in one of your threads how I helped my wife to leave the Borg along with me (and you may be past the point of trying this; I don't know).
While I was still a MS in good standing (but knowing the WTS was a scam) I got really strict with my family's spiritual schedule. I made sure that we would have Family Worship Night as directed by the Organization EVERY week, sometimes more than once.
As the family head, I chose scriptures to read and discuss. No other books. Just the Bible. And I used scriptures that were fairly obvious in meaning and yet either misused or ignored by JWs. We would read the scriptures and I would ask what it means. If they tried to give me the WT version, I would ask again, "Is that what it says? Read it again out loud."
Example, read together John 14: 12-15 then ask, "Who does the Bible say we should exercise faith in?" (they'll try to say, Jehovah); "If we ask God to do something for us in prayer, who does it?" (again, they'll try to say, Jehovah); "Who's commandments does the Bible tell us to obey?" (and by this time, MAYBE they'll get that it's Jesus but they still might say Jehovah).
I didn't make any commentary on the verses other than ask them to read it again and re-ask the question(s).
My wife picked up quickly that the WT answers in her head were not the Bible answers. Within a month or so of this type of Family Worship Night she was thinking for herself and doing research during the day while I was at work, and really wanting to know what else the Bible said that she had been misled about. I didn't tell her she was betrayed by the WTS; I let her figure it out herself just from reading scriptures together week after week.
I hope it works out for you, brotherdan. Maybe you can do Family Worship Night and spin it that even though you've recently had doubts and have fought with your wife about it, you really desire to know God's word and serve Him together as a family again. If she can still submit to your spiritual headship, maybe you can get this off the ground. But don't expect miracles; be patient; and don't dive into false doctrine right away.
Also, do you still pray to Jehovah? Try dropping the false name and pray to your heavenly Father as directed by Jesus. Perhaps read Colossians 1:13-19 and all of John chapter 14 and then give a heartfelt prayer. Jesus says HE will do it for you if you ask.