It is not clear from your comments which relationship(s) you are trying to hold on to.
My wife, son, parents, cousins, aunts, uncles and grandmother. I am a 3rd generation born-in.
MNIONC, I did not mean to insult you. I sincerely want things to go well for your family. I misspoke when I said you did not tell us he was your stepson. I meant to say you didn't tell us until page 4 and on your 8th reply. I understand why you left it out but not having that fact affected our advice some.
You also said there is more to the story but you are afraid there might be too many identifiers and chose not to tell us. That's wise in your situation but there might be something relevant that we would need to know in order to make an informed reply. My point is it is hard to give sound advice without knowing all of the facts.
Hopefully, you will be able to use what works for you and disregard the rest.
Well, I met with the brother and told him that EVERYTHING involving him and my son will and must go through me and that includes the study. He agreed to "back off".
I made the mistake of telling my wife about the conversation. She is not happy. She basically told me that if I was "spiritually strong", no one would have to pick up the slack as far as headship (as seen through the eyes of the witnesses) goes.
It got so bad between us that I spent last night at a motel. Yeah, this religion as done wonders for my family.
MNIONC: I made the mistake of telling my wife about the conversation. She is not happy. She basically told me that if I was "spiritually strong", no one would have to pick up the slack as far as headship (as seen through the eyes of the witnesses) goes.
Great job on putting the nosy brother in his place.
It was NOT a mistake to tell your wife about this. It was the right thing to do.
Do NOT let her emasculate you. This religion is designed to neuter men.
Assert yourself. You don't have to be a jerk about it. Just be real. Be calm, be firm, be clear.
We all know that "spiritually strong/weak" in JW-speak means the exact opposite of what it means in the real world.
@ william draper:
Also we don't have room for you on this boat , too many men already aboard
What are you talking about?
On top of that, I don't feel that I am spiritually weak. I know more about the bible and "spiritual" things in general than she does.