For my wife and me, we kept our feelings to ourselves, thinking not to offend all the extended family.Living far away from them made it easier to leave. they wondered, but never asked why we were not pioneering, etc... anymore
Then one day, a nephew visited with his wife and t asked if we were still going. We answered no, and they wanted to know why? We told them a little, still not wanting to be controversial. The conversation grew, and they let us know they had disasscociated themselves.
Others in the extended family had as well. So here we were, not wanting to stir the pot, only to find out almost everyone, on both sides of the family had left the JW's. Now, only two remain on my side and two on my wifes side.
I was very proud of them to hear their story. While at college, they continued to have doubts, but lived the lie, so as not to upset their parents, but when children came along, they felt, they had to raise them honestly for their good and broke clean. Yes it led to their parents disowning them, but they are a very happy family.
We had a wondeful family reunion during the Xmas break. Over 22 came, and 13 of them were former JW's. We were overjoyed that so much of the family had left and were doing so well.
They are great children. most had went to college, all are funloving to be around.
Only pride keeps the other four from leaving.
Maybe, a similar experience for you and your family is in the future.