When I was in my early teens, I "dated" a really sweet guy, from my congregation. I never realized that he was gay, and neither did anyone else, until a few years later, he died of an undisclosed illness.
Reflecting on his personality and life, I came to realize that he always had tons of girl friends, but never did I see him hanging with the guys. That should have told me something?! I had never known anyone who was gay before, so I didn't catch on.
When I got married, my cousin, ( 10 at the time) was there, and my husband took one look at him, and said, " he's gay". I thought my husband was crazy, but, he was dead on! He is definitely gay, and living a very reckless life, unfortunately. I love him anyways.
I have another very close relative, a young teen, who "came out" last year. I was shocked, to say the least, but my love for this relative has never changed.
Needless to say, it has my JW parents all in an uproar.....