My Andy was in a bad car accident~ (page 11)

Crumpet

I'm glad you got some comfort from church. Any chance the members there can be more helpful and supportive ? In terms of helping with child care until your situation improves.

They pictch in where they can with childcare. And I have a couple of people who are trying to help me with resources. The thing is that my church is an urban church and the members come from all around Grand Rapids. I happen to live in one of the little suburbs where only a couple of members live. One of the members does help with child care, though she has six kids of hers and her husbands that she cares for.

Most members live between 15 and 30 miles away from me. They are all very kind, they just aren't personal friends I hang out with all the time. Does that make sense?

FlyingHighNow

Stopping in to say hello. Even though it's a holdiday, I have been on the phone with various people all day. People from church, family in other states, Andy's mother, Bebu, and others. It's been a particularly hard day for me, emotionally. And then I have so many things piled up that need my attention.

I have looked off and on all weekend for Andy's car title and not found it. I have no clue what he has done with it. I need to continue to get the insurance end of things taken care of and we need his title to get things evened up with the towing company.

I will continue to need emotional support and fellow feeling.

Since Andy's accident, I have interviewed with a maid service and dropped some applications by for a couple of other places with better hours. I will work this week on correcting my credit report so that I might have a chance for a call center job with Huntington Bank. I am also going to speak with the boy's Godmother's maid again about getting some houses to clean. When I am not looking so stressed and disheveled, I will hit some of the temp agencies. I also want to see if the YMCA has any childcare positions and maybe even look into the day care centers for jobs.

I am exploring all my options. I also plan to get some boxes and start weeding out the clutter. Andy tends to be a packrat. His clutter is neat and tidy, but it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. I think more clearly with less around, if that makes sense.

I hope that keeping a more low key day today will help me have more energy tomorrow.

I want you all to know that the help you are sending will help buy us time. And it relieves at least some of the worry over bills and money matters facing me with Andy's accident and absence. You are making a nearly unbearable situation much more bearable. I cannot thank you all enough and know that the boys are grateful, too. Andy also appreciates what he can make sense of.

Blessings to all of you.

juni

(((Flyinghighnow)))

I'm happy that you are finding some financial relief hon.

About the title, won't Michigan (for a price) send you a duplicate title? I know they will here in WI.

Hugs with love, Juni

Who are you?

Our thoughts and prayers are with you!

Restrangled and hubby

Good Girl or Bad Girl?

Andy also appreciates what he can make sense of.

Oh this just wrenches at my heart.

Thanks for checking in, FHN. Keep your chin up, and just know how much we care here. Take things one step at a time.

(Side note: I got a good job here using a temp agency, and the entire process from the first time I stepped into the agency to interview to now having the job was only a few weeks, with the option to work temp jobs here and there as time permitted. The job I got is temp to hire and I used the agency because I felt out of touch with the whole job search process, having been at my previous job in Wisconsin for three years. The agency allowed me to ease into the interview process and they had their eye and hands on resources and jobs I didn't have any way to even know about. It's a good way to go, I feel. I would get your resume into the temp agencies' radar ASAP, even faxing or mailing or emailing it to them. They can be looking for you even before you go into interview, but will most likely require you to interview with them prior to sending you on other interviews. Hoping this is valuable information.)

FlyingHighNow

I just got off the phone with Mother Val, the former priest from St. Mark's, who is also a dear friend. She told me that the attorney for Meijer, my employer, that has something to do with labor, goes to St. Mark's and the boy's godmothers are going to contact him for me and see if there is anything he can do.

Mother Val is coming to take Julian out for a burger, tomorrow. She is very fond of Julian and has paid extra attention to him since he came to stay with us. She was very comforting and told me that I need someone to help me make all these decisions. I think she might help find someone. I hope so. She knows how overwhelmed, sad and lonely we are. She is very fond of Andy as well.She wants for me to concentrate on the boys, which I am trying to do, rather than Andy whose parents are helping him. She said she doesn't want to see Mickey leave. I think she will be a good resource to help me find ways to make this work. She's limited though in what she can personally do: when an interium priest leaves a church they aren't supposed to act as a priest to the members for two years.

It was such a comfort to speak with her and it will be an honor to see her tomorrow afternoon. We've had this appoitment with her for weeks now. It couldn't have come at a more needed time.

anewme

Very good update Heather! This Mother Val intrigues me. Im so glad you have her quality friendship!

Let us know how the visit goes and what she advises ok?

Anewme

bebu

FHN asked me to update for her today, until she can get in herself.

She is distraught because Andy took a turn for the worse yesterday and is back in the hospital. She's reeling emotionally from 1) being frightened of what the future may bring and 2) just not having someone close enough to sit with her and give her a hug.

I hope you remember to breathe deeply, FH... to focus on the angle which has hope, and toss the other angles out... to give yourself goals that are do-able (and thus will give you success)... and to know that we are supporting you and thinking about you, and many are praying for you, too.

JWD--Feel free to add your support!!!

bebu

free2think

(((((((((((((((((((((FHN & Andy)))))))))))))))))))

hugs to you both

My Andy was in a bad car accident~

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