What do women REALLY want? (page 5)

juni

What do women want Abandoned?

Did you ever watch the movie w/Mel Gibson w/the title "What Women Want"?

Funny, but says a lot.

Juni

Thanks everyone for the comments. I do appreciate them. I have to say though, that I'm still as confused as I ever was. I don't know if it matters though. I think I've done enough people-pleasing with the jw so from now on, i'm doing what I like and if someone wants to tag along for the ride, maybe we'll hook up. Maybe we won't either.

Crumpet

If we all wanted the same thing - we'd all be after the same blokes. Luckily my girlfriends and I have completely different tastes in men and want different things. But its a great question.

Here is what I want:

A man who can make me laugh - at myself amongst other things

A man who is completely faithful through choice and not just because he knows I would garrotte his gonads.

A man who can listen - and ask intelligent questions, not just nod and pretend while he thinks about whats for dinner.

A man who respects me enough to be punctual at all times and to phone me when he can't be.

A man who is good with his tongue is essential.

I dont suppose with such rigid criteria there will be many takers!

Stephanus

I think I've done enough people-pleasing with the jw so from now on, i'm doing what I like and if someone wants to tag along for the ride, maybe we'll hook up.

Here's a tip: if "doing what you like" involves model trains or Star Trek conventions, don't expect too many women to "tag along".

Abandoned

Here's a tip: if "doing what you like" involves model trains or Star Trek conventions, don't expect too many women to "tag along".

No, the only trains involved in what I like to do are from the movie Risky Business.

Stephanus

A man who is good with his tongue is essential.

"Well spoken"?

Crumpet

Not necessarily stephanus - I love model railways and bought the flying scotsman with the digital chip for Mr C. And I am a trekkie fan although havent been to any conventions.

but theres always exceptions to the rule!

J-ex-W

Abandoned--- I have one amendment to the list you made: The one about 'promises.' I would change that to 'KEEPS his promises.' That is SOOOO important, dependability. If you're a guy with no follow-through, this woman won't follow you.

He also needs to lead like a goose in V-formation. That is, take leadership (front man) position for a while and in given situations--but also recognize when he needs to hang back and let another goose take the lead spot for a while. [Not afraid to let the woman shine where shining is her natural way and not afraid to let himself shine in his unique ways.] True headship is not a competition for top-spot--it's a tag team sport, a never-ending, well-timed and well-choreagraphed trade-up of shared responsibilities. A man who understands equality...this is what THIS woman wants.

lonelysheep

(probably speaking for myself here) Cockiness is appealing...

Apostate Kate

maybe we'll hook up. Maybe we won't either

Those were some very wonderful years that I spent alone, and in my so called "prime" too! I learned to enjoy being single, going out alone, dining alone if I was in the mood for dinner out etc.

It was great! I had no intentions of ever dating again in fact I was enjoying my life so much I did not want to ruin a good thing. I'll admit the first year was the hardest. Those urges and all, but after that it only got better. I loved the freedom!

Since I was so happy with my life the way it was, only a person who would have been content coming into my world would have been compatible. I had made the mistake so many times in the past of compromising who I am for a man that I was solidly committed to never going there again. "I yam who I yam."

For me the simple basic outward facts had to mesh; location, goals, personality, doctrines, beliefs etc.

Then the inner qualities had to be stable. That seems to be a problem today because how can we know for sure who someone is, their history, unless you were raised in the same town and knew each other from childhood. (As JWs, most of us didn't get a chance to get to know anyone in our towns that were not JW) So I really scrutinized any potential date as best I could.

I am so naive that I believed what men said about themselves like; I have a few beers after work nothing that could be considered an alcoholic, my wife doesn't understand me, I'm not married, I graduated from the University, I'm here legally on a student visa, I don't smoke I can quit anytime, I love kids, no I am not addicted to online porn.......Do woman misrepresent themselves too?

The best thing I did when I was single was to make new friends. Learn how to be a friend to others. That is something I am still working on after being a dub.

Get out there, be yourself. Have fun!

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