Thanks for the reminder to keep on 'hounding' my kids about good manners and being polite to people, learning to apologise when we make a mistake.
Sorry you had such an unpleasant lunch, but I do think that handling it differently yourself may have resulted in another outcome. I had a recent experience that was potentially very unpleasant and it was my young adult son who was the central figure. He had done something stupid, that could have resulted in him being arrested/questioned on a technicality if the other person had pressed it and twisted the situation a bit. But the parent came to me and said what had happened in an unthreatening way, we got the issue talked over with the two young people, and left each other in a very amicable frame of mind. Both the kids had been stupid in different ways but the mistake was made whilst my son had tried to protect his daughter and yada yada yada. End result, kids are ok, parents are friendly, and what could have been horrible was a learning experience and an opportunity to hear both sides of the story-parents and childrens perspective(both kids had led the other to believe their parents were monsters, so it was kind of neat for them to find out that no one was and that we cared about our kids and others' also!)However, the father could have approached me in a way that set my hair on fire and/or I could have over-reacted and then we would have proven the obnoxious teenagers right(that their parents were crazy) and my son may have had a brief aquaintance with the local PD(he didn't really do anything wrong, but it would have been a couple hours straightening it out + a record of it all). Shelly (catching more flies with honey)