Welcome to the forum.
I am not df'd or da'd. I would say that my name explains. I was a faithful WT along with my family. We did everything for the WT. Made sure to listen for announcements for cleaning, pulled weeds, etc., no job too lowly. Faithful in field service, meetings, never faltered. Then my teen straight A faithful daughter made a mistake.
We told her the elders would help her, having love for her and her best interests at heart. Instead, they ignored the teen actions she was involved in, humiliating and berating her unmercifully.
For hours the JC tried to make her confess to fornication, even though she was not accused of it. She was called a liar in the end. She was made to read the scripture in Rev. that said that she was filth in God's eyes, and would burn in the lake of fire with the devil and his angels. She was disfellowshipped, although they never explained why it was necessary nor gave any cousel.
We were blindsided. My daughter was so despondent she did not want to live. Can you imagine sitting up night after night while your child tells you they do not want to live? Can you picture yourself telling her over and over that Jesus died for her and that he and Jehovah love her although these men made her feel like a piece of garbage?
I would never in my life have imagined this could happen. These types of true experiences are what has so hurt your dad.
I figured if this happened to my family it could have happened to others. I typed the words into my computer-Jehovah's Witnesses and abuse, and the floodgates opened.
Yes, I am still in the state of shock and dismay by the things I have found out. I wanted to die. But time helps . I think now that I will live. Believe it or not, many people, wordly of course, somehow seemed to "step up to the plate" to help us without knowing it.
Yes, finding out about the UN, 1914 change, and other things hurt deeply, but I have always wanted to be told the truth, even if it hurts.
May you have blessings and peace.