I applaud that you are still on the inside trying to help others by being compassionate and loving, and trying to spare people from disfellowshipping. I do not find it hypocritical at all. You want to see changes in the Org. and you are a strong person to stay in, even knowing that what they are teaching is not right. You are doing it to help others. You are trying to save people from the anguish that many of us have experienced through disfellowshipping and shunning. It sounds like you have already saved some in your cong. from much unneeded trauma, and think, you could have very well already saved someone's life who would have not been able to cope if they had been disfellowshipped.
I commend and respect you, and wish that there were more Elders like you, who lets their heart guide them.