I haven't started any new threads on here as I was on my SW US roadtrip up until a few days ago. I went with my JW mom and my exJW gf throughout AZ and CA.
I should post about the details about the trip on another thread, but suffice it to say that all 3 of us had a great time, meeting my worldly family who I haven't seen in about 30 years, and meeting some cool JWDers along the way! My mom's eyes were opened quite a bit, and she loved my gf and thought that the JWDers such as Flipper, JeremyC, Danielp, and Confession were pretty cool people who didn't fit into the hateful WT description of apostates.
Anyway, now my mom is back home, and has had to face my self-righteous bastard of a step-father. He is an emotional abuser, who feels justified in angry fits of rage and screaming for hours. So, my mother has been the subject of his interrogation ever since flying in on Monday night. My mother, subjected to this abuse, explained what she did on the trip, and said boldly that she was happy for me, felt that my life has improved since I left the JWs, and approves of my "living in sin". Last night he spoke to the elders about everything she told him, and upon coming home from the meeting, screamed at her for 2 more hours, and finally told her that if he dies he doesn't want me present at his funeral.
When my mom told me that, I laughed, and I replied that since he is anointed, he will know if I go, and he can personally send a lightning bolt to take care of me. But at any rate, I have no intentions of going to the Kingdom Hall, being treated like a pariah, and then listening to some bulshit about Kenny now being in heaven since he was of the "heavenly hope". Of course, should that unfortunate event occur, I would go to comfort my mother, but the Kingdom Hall can go to hell, for all I care.
Anyway, after all this and hearing how my mother has been screamed at for the past 3 days, I decided to lodge a complaint with the PO of the congregation. He was taken aback when the DA son of Kenny the wonderful elder called him up, but I spoke to tell him that I was concerned about my mother. The convo went like this:
Lance: I am concerned about my mother, since Kenny is screaming at her. I don't think that's Christian.
PO: Well, you are not a Christian, so how dare you judge?
Lance: Whether I believe in Christ is irrelevant, the point is that my mother is being mistreated. He has done this ever since I was a child, screaming at her for hours.
PO: Why didn't you report this earlier?
Lance: Well, I was a child, I couldn't report it then. When I left home at 19 to go to Bethel, I was happy to leave that environment. I also never reported it because I had no intention of him losing his privileges. I am not trying to make him lose privileges now, but I am concerened about my mother.
PO: Well, since you did not tell us earlier, that means you were loyal to a man instead of being loyal to Jehovah.
Lance: I am not interested in being loyal to Jehovah, I don't believe in him. All I am concerened about is my mother. Can you help her?
PO: Well, you turned your bak of Jehovah, and you are not a JW in good standing. So I must view anything you say as suspicious. Besides, you have left your wife and are living with another woman, isn't that true?
Lance: Yes it is. But that's none of your business. The point is that my mother is being abused. Can you check into it?
PO: Well, since you are not a JW in good standing, I will not. If a JW in good standing calls me, I will look into it. And until you get your life in order, I will not talk to you.
Lance: My life is in order, thank you very much. And I have no intention of returning to the WT organization, as I know it to be a ... I will hold my tongue, Bro. T.
PO: Well, that is the end of the conversation.
Lance: Will you at least ask my mom how she is being treated?
PO: No I won't. Unless a baptized JW calls me, I won't do anything since nothing uillegal is happening. That is all.
I am shaking and sick to my bones about this. The PO asked if I had called stepfather, to which I explained that he had refused to speak with me. So anyway, I called my stepfather on the phone, who began screaming at me about how I was ruining all of their lives. I told him that he and my mother are in their 60's, so I can't ruin their lives, they each need to make their own decisions in life. But I told him to stop screaming at my mother. He hung up on me.
I am so upset at him, my gf is telling me to calm down, but my blood is boiling!