Some folks are emotional vampires.
I thought I was the only one who said that!!! There's a couple folks in my congregation that I call emotional vampires. One I was getting ready to a thread on as I worked with her in field service over the weekend, and that exhausted me.
As far as the forum is concerned, I think some people don't see themselves as being negative, or toxic, but rather see themselves as handing out tough love. I don't get offended easy, and I've offended plenty of people here on this forum. However, occasionally a couple posters whom I used to be fond of have said some things that have irritated me to the point of calling them out, but what does that accomplish? Nothing. Another thing is, to me anyways, is to remember this is a message board. That's all it is, take it for all the good and bad, and even insignificance its worth. I didn't really care for Besty's view of people on this board as the "anonymous peanut gallery", but there is some truth in those words. Like Jay-Z said when it comes to people with negative views of him, "Fine, it costs you nothing, pay me no mind." That's the way you have to view any detractors on here. I always liked what I heard an inmate say too, "If it aint worth killin over, it aint worth arguing over." That's the truth, its senseless to let a message board get to you.