Hi Jeff thanks for having the courage to come out and tell you're story. I have found that there are many JW's that are really caring and loving folk, and there are those that are control freaks, pious and religious uncaring and ambitious, the point is if those that are in control are the control pious uncaring ambitious religious freaks, a huge problem.
I can relate to you're brother very much so. I was a victim of childhood gang rape at the age of nine, and and also in the home so it left a huge emotinal scare on me, I was self abusive and when I found what I believed was the truth I thought this would save my life (even in this world) but I have been disillusioned by the lack of genuine love especially coming from the top. words are words only, and completely empty if nothing is acted upon. I understand about mental illness and what you said about many in the truth with this problem is true and it has escalated over the years.
Thank you again for you're courage and all the best.