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  This is my story...

  by Huxley in

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  i've been lurking around this site for a while, and i must say that it has been an enormous emotional aid.

  i have been inactive for about 8 months now, and recently turned in a letter of disassociation.

  my wife (thankfully) has been inactive for about 3 months or more.

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  kat_newmas

  First of all Welcome.... (shakes hand)

  How long ago did this "final conversation" happen? (My story is quite similliar.. same selfish response about how "He" couldnt deal with it)

  I was just asking, because if you are like me (and others) you surely still Love him. Please dont make the mistake I did, only calling home every ten years hoping they would change their mind. You may still be able to salvage some of it. If you want to. Try and remember that they are victims here, even though JW's make some of the most frustrating victims I ever met. It's like trying to drag a man out of a burning building, only he has chained himself to a support beam.

  Telling them what is "wrong" with the religion, will only get you a badge that reads "apostate". It will only re-inforce what they are being told.

  I really do sympathize with you on this. I hate to see anyone lose their family to the "burning building".

  When I came to this site a month ago, I intended to "fake" it, so that I could be back with my family. After much thought and the wisdom of those on that post here, I have since changed plans.

  It seems that with my own father, focusing on what we have in common, is working better. We both believe strongly in "God" though we refer differently to him.

  It also seems, that there is no "right" answer to your dillemna. As far as The DA letter.. I agree with Joannadandy... You know in your heart that this cannot be the path to God, and in time you WILL outgrow... that empty feeling.

  You cannot give up on your father though. Family is very important. Who knows... maybe something will happen soon that will open his eyes as well. Whether you believe in "armageddon" or not... one cannot deny that the world is about to become a different place, with all that is going on.

  I certainly am not a source of "flowing wisdom"... quite the opposite. But I encourage you just the same, to hang in there, and wish you all the luck in the world with this. You have already taken one step that I KNOW will help you.... you have come here. Somewhere in the posts that these people leave dangling in cyber-space... you will find much wisdom, and caring, and healing. Good luck... my "in-box" is your "in-box"
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  Please help me understand this one. I never "bought" it

  by berylblue in

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  i would love your thoughts on this one:.

  life is sacred to jehovah.

  (no problem there.).

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  kat_newmas

  I haven't read every post here, so some of this may be repeat.

  As you can see from the scandals surrounding the JW's right now... obviously their interests dont much include children.

  Other than dressing up cute little kids, and shoving a stack of Watchtowers in their hands, and using them to peddle their written jargon.... children are not a scource of income for the WTS.

  It isnt until a person reaches the "age of understanding" that they take a real interest.. Oh sure they teach children..... those who learn and obey (assimilate) are accepted... those who do not... are shunned, stripped of their families and tossed aside.

  From birth... The WTS... treats its people like a carrot patch.... They just run up the rows, pull the ones that don't have the desired color, and put them in the compost heap.
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  To MOUTHY: On-line Grandmother Appreciation Weekend

  by RAYZORBLADE in

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  ok...i think it's long overdue, don't you agree?

  our beloved on-line grandmother (adopted by some of us) deserves a little on-line appreciation.

  mouthy: (grace) this thread will be one dedicated to you.

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  kat_newmas

  You are hilarious! (see other posts) just thought I would add it to the "mouthy post" for the record.

  You are the first living human to ever make Kat Newmas blush..... If only I had so much color on my bumm, as you put on my cheeks (face that Is).

  I am reading your posts going..... .... some kid is on their Grandmother's computer... better go catch it.

  You sure that pic is YOU? No way you are over 35!!!!!

  Live hard, Die young, never grow old...

  Keep on laughing Cyber Granny.....
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  Gratitude and apologies to the group, and a question for Simon.??

  by kat_newmas in

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  gratitude first...thank you all for tolerating my rambling, self indulgent, and sometimes "know it all" posts.

  you have all been gracious, caring, and wonderful support.

  i have found some of you to be hilarious and warm... those who have come here for help, have cerainly stumbled into something wonderful.

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  kat_newmas

  Kat Newmas reads the post from Mouthy and falls out of his chair. laughing that is. You are just too funny.... finally got to hear all of your testimony.... quite a riot.

  As far as you being old... I just dont believe it.... You are a really neat gal ! The name certainly fits you .... I remember when you first responded to my post on men wearing earings... and the penis thing... I knew then, that you were a flipping riot.... Next time I visit Europe, I will have to make it a point to drop you a line....

  Live fast, Die young, and you will never grow old
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  Sharring my secrets..continues..and the end

  by kls in

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  let me say first i am not telling this for sympothy in any way, my growing up is a lot better then a lot of kids,the horror some of these defenseless babys and children have, the death penalty is to good.the reason i call these threads ..my secrets, is something you dont talk about outside those walls as i am sure other's on this sight can relate to.i am telling my story so many of you can understand why i am trying so hard and long to get my husband out of this sick cult.he is all i have known since i was fifteen.some of you have asked if my parents were jws?

  no catholics,some asked why the neighbors did nothing ,no one wanted to get their nose dirty i guess and two neighbors were cops.before i start more of my life ,please when i wright a thread about what ever ...please dont tell me i need to talk to someone or i am feeling this way because of my child hood.if any thing it has made me a strong person in many ways.i as many in simular situations are good at blocking things out and becoming callus to situations.i promised not do drag this on and here i go .all right i will shut up and get on with it.growing up i learned there are, mean drunks, nice drunks, quiet drunks,etc.lucky me mom was a mean drunk.when she did get out of her bed , for her alcohlic delivery,my sister and i would run upstairs to our room and push our beds against the door .i can't say some of the things she had done to me ,it is to hard.notice i said things done to me , i always felt my mother hated me , she always treated me cruel,punishing me for no reason or just letting me know i was worthless.finally during one of her trips out of her room to get the wonder juice delivery, she stopped to tell me how i ruined her life by becoming pregnant with me,i guess the story goes my mother was going to leave my father and one night he raped her and became pregnant with me .oh ya it was my idea to just jump in her womb.any way thats just some .more tid bits of home.living with my syco sister didnt last to long ,my other sister now almost eighteen was married and had a baby, me i was fifteen and pregnant waiting for my sixteenth b-day( pagan) to get married.well got married things were rough but alright till a cult member started to talk to my husband at work, well he told me we got sucked in , after a year or two i felt something was wrong with this so i left it but my husband was trapped.to me i have a much stronger mentality were as my husband who says he had a good childhood is very weak and gullible.next had four great kids (my life) and a husband whose life is work, the hall, and himself.now i am fortyfive all kids grown and gone but one ,he's ninteen.i am always in contact with my next oldest sister,but not with my oldest.

  my brother i see a few times a year , and mother, she was constantly put in nut houses and would get out and go soeone would put her back in .

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  kat_newmas

  Often in Nature,

  The female of any species,

  is left to Endure and Succeed,

  In life's Greatest Challenges.

  Hidden away in the Female Mysteries,

  are the secrets of the Ages.

  Blessed Be her Womb,

  From Which all Life Flows.

  ---Kat Newmas

  A caption I placed on a recent peice of art. I wish you the best, and hope that this works out for you. Nobody here will accuse you of whining or feeling sorry for yourself. I dare say that most of us share your frustration and hurt. I can honestly say that I have found much healing here, and I am sure that you will too. Don't give up hope.

  I did cry a little bit with your post. One day.... you will look back and know that this is out of your hands. Keep your faith, no matter how you choose to worship. I cannot imagine what you truly feel.

  You are a woman.... and in that.... know that you are the spiritual and strong. Follow your feminine spirituality. Know that your "feeling" cannot misguide you, if you follow what is truly in your heart.
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  BIOGRAPHIES

  by RAYZORBLADE in

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  since i have plenty of extra time on my hands tonight, i have been perusing the forum participants' biographies.

  some are quite remarkable, and some are short n' sweet but nonetheless indicative of what brings us here to this forum collectively.

  there are few that have nothing, but that could be due to privacy issues or computer/forum incapatabilities (not sure).

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  kat_newmas

  Mouthy... (posted this elsewhere) listening to your testimony.... So attracted to the Accent.... Very inspiring and funny. Married a Englishwoman you know...

  Signed... the guy with no avatar, but a shiny bumm
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  Gratitude and apologies to the group, and a question for Simon.??

  by kat_newmas in

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  2. friends

  gratitude first...thank you all for tolerating my rambling, self indulgent, and sometimes "know it all" posts.

  you have all been gracious, caring, and wonderful support.

  i have found some of you to be hilarious and warm... those who have come here for help, have cerainly stumbled into something wonderful.

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  kat_newmas

  Thank you all for the little flame thingy..... I am proud of it now. Brummie... I tried to post some artwork on another thread... was told you cannot put pics on from your c drive. Whe I get the new avatar after Simon fixes the "edit" I will put one on there. (cant find my own posts now without that shiny moon to guide me......)

  Mouthy..... hee hee... I am listening to your testimony right now.... I am so attracted to British accents... I married one you know......From Culchester.... Sounds a weee bit Irish
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  What a gas!!

  by LuckyLucy in

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  on my way to work today (in sunny california

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  kat_newmas

  I live in Central Georgia. It is running anywhere from $1.18 to $1.32 per gallon. All last summer though, you could get it for $1.02.

  I dont know what the exchange rate is right now with Britain.... assumes $5.80 equals about $3.00 american. (assumes you are talking about pounds)
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  Would you take your shoes off?

  by Golden Girl in

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  if you went to someones house as a guest and they asked you to take your shoes off..would you?..would you be offended?....

  does anyone know if this is proper etiquette?.

  didn't know where else to post this........ my daughter was invited to a neighbors house and they requested people remove their shoes!...she never had anyone ask her that before.

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  kat_newmas

  that word.... "householder".... I have not heard that in twenty years.... Swear to me you will never use that word again. It gives me the hee-bee-gee-bees

  he he he
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  Would you take your shoes off?

  by Golden Girl in

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  if you went to someones house as a guest and they asked you to take your shoes off..would you?..would you be offended?....

  does anyone know if this is proper etiquette?.

  didn't know where else to post this........ my daughter was invited to a neighbors house and they requested people remove their shoes!...she never had anyone ask her that before.

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  kat_newmas

  Only in the last five years or so, have I engaged in the interesting habit people have of wearing shoes. I mostly started doing it because I was afraid I may one day step on an aids infected needle or something.

  I still have problems walking in them... and when I race my step-son and his friends across the yard... I have to remove the shoes.

  However, I have always kept a clean tub of water by the back door, for me to step into before entering the house. And when going to someone's house, I am inclined to be extra careful about hygene. (clean claws) More often than not rather than being asked to take them off.... I am asked to put them on. As I now understand it... it is somehow considered rude to walk about in naked feet.

  But I agree, that when going to someone's home you must respect their wishes. I know that most of us were raised JW's and we are used to being pushy, about going into other's homes, but I would say just to be polite.... remove them if asked.