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  Why don't Lurkers Post?

  by sweet pea in

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  when i came to the realisation that my whole religious upbringing was in question and i was led to this site, i immediately wanted to get involved - i could see that there was a lot of caring, spiritual people here that had created an amazing community and i wanted to be a part of that community (to release some pent up feelings and to maybe help others in some way) but having read that many of you guys lurked for months and in some cases years before you finally posted - i'm intrigued as to why?????

  was it selfishness - couldn't bring yourself to commit and be a part of the community, you were just content to observe?

  was it laziness?

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  Maybe they just don't feel like it.

  I hate it when people try to pressure me to join in a conversation. Or smile. What's up with that?
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  Birthdays and Job

  by emptywords in

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  the societys stance on birthdays is either blatantly a lie, or a lack of bible knowledge on the part of the governing body!

  while still attending at the kingdom hall i read job 1:4 where jobs childreneach had celebrations in his own day.

  then read in job after his kids died and all his possession were lost where job cursed his own day.

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  16 (Pharaoh king of Egypt had attacked and captured Gezer. He had set it on fire. He killed its Canaanite inhabitants and then gave it as a wedding gift to his daughter, Solomon's wife. 17 And Solomon rebuilt Gezer.) (NIV, 1 Kings 9:16-17)
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  LIFE IS GOOD!

  by Dansk in

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  what the heck.

  i'm sitting here with idle time.

  ok, so what's so great about that?

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  I'm glad to hear you are doing so well Dansk. Can't wait to see you again and meet your wife!
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  Bringing Children Into This World

  by Mysterious in

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  since leaving the jws how has your opinion of "bringing children into this world" changed?.

  it floored me the other day to hear a 19 year old non-jw say she didn't want to bring kids into the world because of the state it was in.

  it struck me as a very jw thing to say, or at least something i would not expect from a young person..

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  I had my daughter when I was a dub and felt guilty about it because I was supposed to wait until the new system. I was getting ahead of Jehovah with my personal wants and needs.

  Now I worry more about how to prepare my daughter to live in a world where a vast amount of people don't seem to really care about anyone or anything but themselves. But I think no matter when you live as parents you worry about something. It's what we do.
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  What Lakes Do You Play At?

  by smellsgood in

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  this weekend i'm headed to priest lake in idaho...my family has a cabin up there and i've gone there my whole life.

  i'm obsessed with picking huckleberries, which are my most favorite berries.

  huckleberry pie is wicked tasty.

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  Town Lake

  

  

  or Lake Travis

  

  
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  "You don't return my phone calls!"

  by zack in

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  ok. so what is the story about people getting upset with others because their phone calls are not returned?

  i know that sometimes i don't return calls, but i also know that sometimes people just call to chat, gossip, bitch, and overall waste my time and add to my stress level.

  second, i beleive this complaint is self centered: you didn't return my phone call.

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  People don't expect me to return their calls until I'm ready. Like a few other people said in their posts, let people know what they can and can't expect from you. But also give the same, I don't expect other people to call me back until they are good and ready to either.
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  Who has my Joie d'vivre ? I demand it back right now!!

  by Crumpet in

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  warning: don't read this if you are easily depressed!.

  here's how it is for me right now - no frills:.

  its pants, sh*t, black, doom, gloom and don't spare the melancholy (pronounced mel-ankley if you are me).. what's brought this on?

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  Sometimes I think we have to have the lows to appreciate the highs in our life. That said, you don't want to spend to much time in the low part because then it's just depressing....just keep in mind we all have bad days, it's ok to feel down sometimes (heck I even wallow a bit from time to time in my misery) but then you have got to pick yourself up and move forward.

  You might try to vary your routine, sleep on the other side of the bed. Maybe get a cat. Another secret for you, I sleep with a stuffed animal I sometimes cuddle. I also make it a point to remind myself of the good things in my life, when we get down those tend to get scuttled to the side. After all you DO have Burts Bees to look forward to.
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  Moving

  by Xena in

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  our settlement visas came thru and we have booked our flights for july 16th so it's official that we are moving to scotland.

  i've already got a few boxes of confort goods (stuffed animals, photo albums and dvd's) packed and are now fixing to tear each room apart and sort it by what i want to take, store or sell.

  it's a bit daunting.

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  Thanks for the tips juni. I didn't know about the newspaper or the mothballs.

  I'm pretty much having to strip it all down to 7 boxes to ship and one 10 x 10 storage space. I have some antiques I inherited from my parents I want to keep so they will take up the bulk of the space in the storage unit. None of my applicances will work there so I'm selling them. It's tough to condense your life down this much though.

  Makes you think about what's really important to you.
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  Moving

  by Xena in

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  our settlement visas came thru and we have booked our flights for july 16th so it's official that we are moving to scotland.

  i've already got a few boxes of confort goods (stuffed animals, photo albums and dvd's) packed and are now fixing to tear each room apart and sort it by what i want to take, store or sell.

  it's a bit daunting.

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  Are you from Scotland? Why did you choose to move there?

  I'm from Texas and I married another poster from this board who is from Scotland. I'm moving there to be with him.

  ...or I would be if it weren't for ninja scaring me with the wicker man, eh ninja?
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  Moving

  by Xena in

  1. jw
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  our settlement visas came thru and we have booked our flights for july 16th so it's official that we are moving to scotland.

  i've already got a few boxes of confort goods (stuffed animals, photo albums and dvd's) packed and are now fixing to tear each room apart and sort it by what i want to take, store or sell.

  it's a bit daunting.

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  I'm done with my bathroom and I have an entire trash bag full of that stuff in your cabinets and under your counter you might need one of these days but don't ever actually use...

  Simplify isn't such a bad thing, we used to move a lot when I was younger and I found it very cleansing. During the short spurts where I feel motivated I'm actually enjoying this.