Hi LP
Here is my list of things you should do:
1. Find yourself another Bob.
2. As a last service to this Bob give him the URL of this forum and tell him it's just brought up too many questions about the WT teachings and administration. Then if he's interested let him sort his life out by himself.
3. Then move on and live your life without any JW influence.
JMHO Have a great Life - Wheels