@LongHairGal
I made the mistake of trying to be supportive of a now ex-sister when she was still in who was in a similar situation as yours. We both caught hell from the eldurrs. They thought it was better that she be treated as you described and be pushed out, than to be treated with respect and compassion and want to remain in. Turns out it was better for both of us that we are both now either fully out, or at least only physically in for now.