Posts by Tameria2001

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back injury and nightmares.

by zeb in

i have a recurring back injury that has spared me for some time but has returned and the results are nightmares of the 'stephen king' order.

my guess its nerve damage causing 'short circuits'.. am seeing the chiro tomorrow.. anyone else had this?.

Back pain is no fun and royally sucks big time. This is something I have had issues for a long time myself. Mine was so bad that I ended up having to go in and have back surgery to repair some damage that was done by an epidural. After my back surgery, I became 2 inches shorter.

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Newly Free, Need Advice

by HappyBlessedFree in

i stopped attending meetings about three months ago.

after researching everything i could find on jehovahs witnesses (which is a lot) i can happily say i am awake and free.

i was a baptized witness for over 25 year.

Tameria2001

For everyone who wakes up, there is a certain moment, or incident that causes everything to click. There is nothing one person can do or say that will cause this, at least at that moment. You know where he stands at the moment, don't push the matter, because that could backfire. Most importantly live life, and allow your children to experience a normal childhood. Every child is different in what they want to do in life. Some would be sports, electronics, education, or a whole slew of other things.

My case was different than yours, my husband and I were both brought up in the JW world when we were four years of age. My husband was first in realizing what the JWs really are, while I still was mentally and physically in. He waited on me, and I had that moment of clarity that caused me to realize it as well. He never tried to prove to me that the Watchtower was wrong, and even if he tried I would not have believed him. But when I did finally have that moment, it was like a ton of bricks fell on me.

Earlier when I mentioned electronics and education, the electronics I was referring to was video games. When my boys were younger I was very strict on the types of games they were not allowed to play, and that was no M rated games. Anyways what that led to was my boys (2 years apart in age) had developed a very close relationship, and even to this day, they are best friends and have a lot of the same friends (all good kids). Video games ended up causing my youngest to develop an interest in foreign language. In high school, he took 3 years of French, and now in college, he is in his third and final year in Japanese, this is his minor.

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Allergic to Kingdom Hall

by Cerise in

does anyone else know of a person who has such a sensitive nose or bad allergy that they are allergic to the paint or interior of the kingdom hall somehow and they can’t go inside?

and that person doesn’t even switch halls they “listen on the phone” all the time.

i know of a couple people like that.

Tameria2001

I had a serious issue inside, but I wasn't given the luxury of staying home. My mom forced me to go, at the time I was living at home and had to abide by her rules. Thinking back on it, that's why I traveled so much before I was married.

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The awful treatment of my disfellowshipped cousin still continues

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

my cousin was disfellowshipped twenty years ago when he was 18 years old.

he admitted to the congregation elders that he was fornicating with his ''wordly'' girlfriend.

the elders were following him and hiding in their cars to see what he was up to.

Tameria2001

There was an incident that really struck me when I was an active witness, even then I couldn't understand why the JWs do what they do. When I was an active witness, one of my friends had gotten married. Her mother was disfellowshipped, but regardless her mom paid for the whole wedding and reception. It was a very formal wedding and extravagant reception. My friend had a total of 10 people in her wedding party, including the groom, and bride, and over 500 people in attendance. All the guys were wearing tuxedos, and the bridesmaids were all wearing beautiful black silk gowns. Her mother also paid for her daughter's two-week honeymoon, which was in Cancun, and also paid for the round trip ticket, and the limo ride to the airport (a little over an hour ride). What thanks did she get for giving her daughter and son-in-law such a grand gift? Her daughter told her not to come to the wedding or reception. Personally, if it were me, I would have let the ungrateful child figure out how to pay for that all on her own.

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Introduction

by Cerise in

hello i am relatively new, reading a lot of experiences here for a while.

i’m born in and baptized but i moved away from small town to a new congregation in big city so i have a good opportunity to fade now.

all my good friends are worldly and my boyfriend.

Tameria2001

I can give you one little piece of advice if you are trying to fade, make sure all and any research is not in the main living section of your home, where visitors can see it. When I was trying to fade, was not successful in this. My brother-in-law stopped by my home. I thought I had everything all covered up, but low and behold, he spotted one little picture of the pyramid that is close to Russel's grave and really got up in our (my husband and I) business. My husband and him (his own brother) don't get along, and hubby is easily riled up by his brother, he knows how to push my husband's buttons. Anyways keep all research in another room that any current witness or guest never go in.

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Are You Horrifed if Someone Goes Into a “Massage Parlor”?

by minimus in

jw
friends

yesterday, robert kraft, the owner of the new england patriots, got busted for getting a massage and more.

they say there is another more high profile person who also got busted.. does this stuff upset you that some men have gone into a massage parlor for possibly more than a massage?

?.

Tameria2001

Personally what a person does with their own time, as long as it is not harming another person is their own business, and doesn't bother me.

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Did you know most jehovah witnesses don’t even follow their own rules?

by Walrus in

(before you read anything i was born into this religion and am just counting down the days until i can leave) so i made one other post before because i signed up thinking that this was just a one time venting thing for me and everyone that replied on my last post was super helpful and i thank you if you’re reading this one but shit.

i’ve never released this much emotion especially to strangers, not even with my own parents and with you guys i feel like i can say anything about how i feel and it’s all good because you all feel the same as i do.

but anyway i just got into some shit with my mom and step dad.

Tameria2001

Thanks, newsheep, you gave me an idea. Talking about famous JWs, here is a link to those who are well-known JWs, it also tells if they are still active or not. There are a few professional sports players in there as well.

https://www.jwfacts.com/watchtower/famous-jehovahs-witnesses.php

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Did you know most jehovah witnesses don’t even follow their own rules?

by Walrus in

(before you read anything i was born into this religion and am just counting down the days until i can leave) so i made one other post before because i signed up thinking that this was just a one time venting thing for me and everyone that replied on my last post was super helpful and i thank you if you’re reading this one but shit.

i’ve never released this much emotion especially to strangers, not even with my own parents and with you guys i feel like i can say anything about how i feel and it’s all good because you all feel the same as i do.

but anyway i just got into some shit with my mom and step dad.

Tameria2001

I know all too well the hypocrisy of the JWs. My mom became a JW when I was 4, but my dad never had anything to with religion. My husband was also raised in a JW home as well, his parents became JWs when he was also 4 years of age. Both our parents became JWs for the exact same reason because they were told that Armageddon would happen in the fall of 1975. They were actually teaching that lie at their assemblies, conventions, meetings, and publications. My husband was never interested, but he went along with what his parents to an extent, but was quite rebellious, and also was on the wrestling team at his high school. He made the mistake of getting baptized (at the age of 19) because of pressure from all his JW friends and family. A few years ago both he and I decided we didn't want to have anything to do with the JWs and we sent in a letter informing them of this decision. It was called Dissociation. Those who did this are treated the exact same way as those who are Disfellowshipped, with the shunning and all.

A couple of years after my husband and I left the JWs, one of his great uncles had a 75-year birthday party, and there was a lot of relatives there, including my husband's mom, dad, brother, and sister, all who are active JWs. His dad was even an elder at the time. What put a very bitter taste in my mouth was when it came to my father-in-law was he celebrated, and sang the happy birthday song right along with everyone else, but still that the balls to act like a "proper" JW in making a point in shunning us. I so wished I had a cell phone at the time and recorded him doing that, and see him in the hot seat. I was not the only one who took notice to that, all the other relatives there know that those people are JWs as well. That man has always been like that, he even celebrated Christmas. Yet he acts like I'm the one who's slime under his feet.

The JWs don't realize it, but they are in a cult, you can see that first hand on the way they label people who are not of their religion as "Worldly People". They say this to make those individuals as something that is bad for you. When I was in school, I use to know a few kids who played sports, although they were far and few. I move around a lot growing up, 63 different times, and 14 different schools from Kindergarten to my senior year. But one thing I did notice was those who wanted to do something that was not wrapped up in the JW world was looked down on. Some did go off to college, and the witness would say why would you waste your time doing that, the end is "Right Around The Corner". Assuming those kids are still alive, they would now be retired from their chosen profession or getting very close to retirement.

My biggest regret in life is I fell for their lies till I was 32. Looking back there were things I wished I had done instead. When I was a child I wanted to be a veterinarian, but I choose to put "Jehovah first", that still puts a very bitter taste in my mouth. I went the route of being a regular pioneer, and at that time it was 90 hours in field service a month of going to door to door, and bible studies with people, instead of doing what I wanted, and that was to fulfill my childhood dream. By the time I realized that was bunk, I check out what was required for me to make my dreams happen, but by then it was too late because I missed out on the right opportunity to make those things happen.

One thing that I'm glad that I did finally wake up at that age because my children were able to go on with their lives without the JWs telling them what they can and can't do. My youngest son is in his third year of college and doing very well. He's a very busy young man, going to school full time, working full time, and keeping his grades up. Now that your in High School, I'm not sure how much you know about this or not, but if you hear of AP classes (United States), those are Advance Placement Classes, meaning they actually give you college credit. My son took a lot of those, and by the time he was in his Freshman year in College, he already had that done. His first year in college he was actually in his second year and had all his math requirements completed. Because he was able to put his schooling first his whole College education is completely paid for, but he must still keep up his grade point average to make that happen.

I'm only telling you this to give you an idea on what's out there because you sure won't hear about it from any of those involved in the JW religion. One thing you can do is talk to your school counselor, and they can also give you some great advice on things you can do after graduation, and how to prepare for those goals. Also, talk to them about your mother's threat about pulling you from school, and back into home school. Your school counselor can also be of huge help when it comes to your education, and getting ideas on what control you have on your own education life.

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Anyone else do this?

by Biahi in

i used a public washroom in a grocery store.

in the stall, someone left a tract on the baby changer.

my first thought was to trash it, instead i wrote cult on it and jwfacts.com on it.

Tameria2001

I did that once, almost forgot about it. But in my case, it was a bit different. A few years back my next door neighbor was having some problems, single mom, homeowner, and stuck with a few rather expensive issues regarding her home, and a wild teen girl, who has since grown up and calmed down. After a while, I noticed that these JWs were coming to her home on a regular basis, and I know that they love tricking people into their cult, especially when someone is dealing with stuff. My neighbor speaks English, but it is quite difficult for her, and my Spanish is even worse. When I realized what was going on, I went and printed up some information for her in her own language and left it at her door. It was telling her what the JWs won't tell her until after it's too late to back out, and where to go to find out more if she wanted to. Let's just say shortly after that the JWs weren't coming around her home anymore.

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Who is your favorite Star Wars character?

by LoveUniHateExams in

the star wars franchise has lots of memorable characters, no doubt about it.

the sw extended universe is a big space.. there are lots of characters in the extended universe that i know little or nothing about - i may have only heard their names.. so if you could pick just one character, which one is your favourite?.

Tameria2001

I can't remember the guy's name, but Jar Jar was based on another character in literature. The guy acted just like Jar Jar; goofy, clumsy, and in general appeared like he didn't know anything, but was the one behind the scenes pulling all the strings. The same was supposed to be for Jar Jar, but there was such a huge backlash about this character, that George Lucas changed his mind about Jar Jar.