My cousin was disfellowshipped twenty years ago when he was 18 years old. He admitted to the congregation Elders that he was fornicating with his ''wordly'' girlfriend. The Elders were following him and hiding in their cars to see what he was up to. They caught him walking out of a hotel with his girlfriend. He admitted to everything because his conscience really bothered him.
That happened 20 years ago! How long can you punish someone? He's not invited to any family functions and only allowed at funerals where the whole family and congregation members avoid him like the plague.
He and his wife just had their first baby two months ago. His dad, sisters, aunts, and cousins have not seen the baby and have no intention of ever seeing him due to the disfellowshipping policy. Any contact with disfellowshipped persons is to be avoided.
How low can the treatment of the disfellowshipped get? They have asked my cousin's wife ( who is not a Jehovah's Witness) if she can bring the baby to their house without my cousin present. His dad even sent a baby gift with a card only addressed to his wife and baby. He couldn't even write his son's name on the card.
THEY ARE ALL CONDUCTING THEMSELVES IN A SHAMEFUL MANNER BECAUSE OF MADE UP RULES FROM EIGHT MEN LIVING IN NEW YORK! I TOLD MY COUSIN THAT IF THEY REFUSE TO SEE THE BABY WITHOUT HIM PRESENT, THEY DON'T NEED TO SEE HIS WIFE AND THE NEW BABY.