Sorry to hear this. She sounds just like my mom. On my last conversation with my mom, I asked her what if you found out that the JWs is not the true religion? Her response to me was, "I invested too much of my life to ever walk away."
Tameria2001
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Venting, Wow, found out just how indoctrinated my wife is
by goingthruthemotions injust had to share this, tonight we had a heated conversation about the religion.
she said everything they teach is 100% true and any mistakes are cleaned up and corrected, that the payouts for the child abuse is not an issue even if its taken from donations.
because, she believe 100% the org knows what its doing.
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Ideas on covering id online?
by Ray Frankz inguys, ive wanted for long to start to express my thoughts about what i learned about the org and the bible altogether but i'm a pimo.
what suggestions do you have for me?
i don't want to "get caught" for sharing "apostasy" and i think running a page on facebook or instagram is too easy for anyone to track me down.
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Tameria2001
A second Facebook page would work, if you do, just make sure you create an e-mail just especially for it and use an assumed name. I do this, not for religious purposes, but the other is just to keep certain people from seeing what I have up.
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a drive..
by zeb inits sunday am and i suggest we go for a drive.
why i do not know as we have no conversation no banter at all.. so we did and had coffee.
while we were doing so and looking at the scenery i realized she was humming wt songs to herself.
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Tameria2001
I wouldn't hold it against her too much. Sometimes those songs just get stuck in your head. I left the JWs back in 2001, and even to this day every so often I'll be humming to myself. I'll be thinking what tune is this, and then I remember....OMG, Then I'll quickly turn on some music or start thinking about some other tune like happy birthday or wish you a merry Christmas, anything just to get that horrible tune out of my head.
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My Mom's Challenge to Me
by lriddle80 inso my jw mom messages me on facebook last night and says she wants me, for a month, to read the bible, but first pray using the name jehovah and in jesus name and then read it with an open mind.
she is so ridiculous!
first of all, i do pray but i usually just say father and i always pray in jesus name and i find it ironic that she is saying i should have an open mind when hers is closed.
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Tameria2001
I remember my mom would tell me the exact same thing. The funny thing that happened was when did I read it with an "open mind" I discovered that the JW love to take quite a few scriptures out of context to fit their teachings. When I would read the scriptures before and after, some of their favorite saying "see this proves our point", by reading the whole section it did the total opposite. When I pointed this out to her, It was like taking a rubber ball and bouncing it off of a brick wall, she just didn't get it or choose not to.
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I Wouldn’t Be Surprised If The USA Had Another Civil War!
by minimus ini have never seen this country so divided.
something is going to give.
they is such a lack of recognition for the law.
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Tameria2001
I highly doubt there will ever be another Civil War in the United States. Simply because back then it was the one whole part of the country divided up against the other part of the country. Now between the different groups that clash all mixed up with each other, meaning they all live in the same communities. Personally, I don't believe a lot of the hype you see in the world news, because those are a small majority of the overall population, and I feel that a large portion of that is financially backed by people who do want to bring down the United States.
Personally, all I ever see in my everyday life is people doing what they normally do, that is going to school, work, church, and gatherings such as Bike, Blues, and BBQ, to name a few things. All I hear about on my local news are things that can easily be proven in person, and that for sure is nothing like you hear on the world news. Yes, I do see people who do want change, and they do so by being peaceful about it. I'm talking about changes in the LBT community, and we have a fairly decent population where l Iive. Also, there are the Christians and the opposing viewpoints between the two groups. Not once have I ever seen in person the chaos that you hear on the news. My community does have quite a few both of the Liberals and the Conservatives, and not once have I seen those two groups go at it as you see in the news, and oh yes, I have also seen the Black Lives Movement as well, but not once have I seen in my area any of those groups ever get violent.
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You Bet Your Life
by DNCall init is said that life is a gamble.
when you join a religion, you are wagering some portion of your life.
you may choose not to risk too much.
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Tameria2001
It took me a long time to finally get my head on straight, I'll give you a hint, it was only a couple years ago that I finally was able to get past the whole religious stuff. I was raised as a JW since I was 4 (mom fell for the whole 1975 lie), I got baptized in 1987, and left it in 2001. Yes, I will admit I too fell for their spill hook line and sinker, mainly because I had total faith in my mom. When I left it, I immediately started attending another church, which I don't regret, because they helped me to get quite a bit of the JW garbage out of my head. Went there for a while, and then I ended up moving to another location. The thing about going to churches, even the mainstream churches, after a while they all felt just the same as the JWs, and that was the feeling of them trying to take total control of my life. This was something I vowed to myself to never again allow what the JWs did to me, to ever happen again.
I now believe in spirituality, and not religion. Spirituality is the spiritual connection between the individual and God. Religion, on the other hand, has done nothing but harm, and to control the masses. I mean how many people have been killed or harmed in the name of religion? How many wars or terrorist actions have happened and religion was right in the middle of it? I don't expect an answer, it's just how I feel.
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I'm considering putting off my leaving
by paradiseseeker ini just wanted to share with you the thoughts that i've had lately.. my plan was to get a job, become independent and then leaving the org throughout this year 2018. i'm going to achieve the first step in a matter of weeks, the second one soon afterwards but maybe i will wait a little longer for the last one.. one year ago a friend of mine was reinstated.
we weren't very close friends back then, although we got along well.
but, since no many jws in my town want to hang out with him (because of his being a former disfellowshipped), we started to talk and go out more often and in a matter of half a year we've become very close friends, like brothers.
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Tameria2001
I wanted to add just one little thing if you don't mind. You might be wondering who I am first. I was raised a JW, and officially left it 17 years ago (dissociation). When I left it, I knew it was coming, I knew that eventually, I would have to make a choice. My choice of when was taken away from me by my brother in law, and it wasn't good. I just wanted to say don't worry about when you should leave, or stay; when the time comes you will know.
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Funeral/Memorial at the Kingdom Hall ... Would you go?
by Wild_Thing inlet's say an aunt or uncle dies.
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let's say you barely knew them.. let's say their memorial service was held at the kingdom hall.. let's say if you attend, you have to deal with shunning from family and jws, and you are forced listen to them present their paradise promotional materials, and the dead person's "earthly hope™", and let's face it ... the heeby-jeebies of having to be in a kingdom hall again.. would you put yourself through it?
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Tameria2001
I can easily answer this question with a solid NO. I can say this is because I have already refused to go to two different JW relative's funeral. One was a grandmother and the other was an aunt. The first funeral I faked an illness, yes I know that was the cowards way out, but it worked. The other a few years later I flat out refused. My husband was really pushing the issue (he's also a former JW as well), but he decided to drop it when he saw I was in full panic mode.
They say the funeral is for the living, so why should one put themselves through complete hell to be around people who don't want them there anyway.
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I really hate what religion has done to my head, namely just one religion.
by Tameria2001 inback in 1974 my mom fell for the lies of the jws, and became a member, dragging me along for the ride.
i was only around four years old.
that lie she fell for was that in the fall of 1975 she would be reunited with my older sister.
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Tameria2001
Back in 1974 my mom fell for the lies of the JWs, and became a member, dragging me along for the ride. I was only around four years old. That lie she fell for was that in the fall of 1975 she would be reunited with my older sister. My sister had died in May 1973, and she was only five years old. She had a cousin who used this lie to lure my mother into that cult. Before that my mother couldn't stand them, and always had a few colorful words to describe them.
So I spent the next years (from 1974 to my dissociation in 2001) they had plenty of time to do their worst. For a while I too fell for their lies as well, got baptized in 1987. So now I'm sitting here always in conflict on different things. Oh I'm never going back, that's a promise. But there are times it's like I'm fighting what was ingrained into my head all those years. Part of me wants to move on, and there are other parts of my head, it like no you can't do that, it's wrong. I would love to break free from the constant conflict, I just can't figure out how. It's been 15 years since I officially left them. Any suggestion on how to break free from these religious chains that just seem to keep attached.
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How does an elder become an elder ?
by Drwho ini was never a jw , so have millions of questions .
please, how does an elder become an elder and how much trust does or should a jw put in an elder .?
simon.
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Tameria2001
I don't know what they have to do to become an elder, but I do know this for sure. First and foremost, do NOT ever put any trust in any elder. They are not there to help, but to judge, and they are not even qualified to do so. I say this because a few years back, my husband and I were having some marriage troubles. He had committed adultery.
Anyways, while my husband was going through the judicial meeting with them, they had actually had me there for one of the times. They asked me all kinds of things, that I had no knowledge of, because I was not at home when the deed had went down. Anyways after it was all over, they had put my husband on private reproof, and that was it. I thought that at least they would help me in how to deal with my feelings of betrayal, and all the other feelings that a spouse goes through when their partner cheats on them. But all I got from them was not a dam thing, no counseling, nothing. The next seven years after that was pure hell for both me and my husband, because I was left to figure out how to deal with this whole mess all on my own.
Also there are double standards when in comes to elders. What I mean by this is from what I also saw. There were two elders, and both had gotten a divorce. The first one met and married a woman, and he did everything to make the marriage work out, but she left him anyway. They had no children, and weren't married very long. He lost his position as an elder.
The other elder, he had been married for several years, and had 2 children. He treated his wife like crap, and finally she had enough of him, and divorced him as well. I know the awful details of what his wife when through, because I had worked for him, and had spent quite a bit of time at their home. He never lost his position as an elder.