Hi lsw1961,
Welcome to the forum. Its not often one gets to communicate with an active JW on this forum who still believes in the JW tdoctrine. Unlike the jwtalk forum you'll find you will not get the banhammer just because you have a dissenting opinion. Unfortunately you're going to get it from all sides from the members though, and I am no exception.
Firstly I will concede that the JW religion has some good points. By the same token so do the Catholics, Baptists, Scientologist, Buddhists and the whole gambit of religion. The heart of your post goes to the question of why many ex-JW's criticize the organization so vehemently and you also state that ex-JW's are essentially unhappy and spiteful.
However your thesis falls apart with your own answer:
Of course I do refrain from shunning which I personally consider as wrong.
1. You admit that this is wrong. Most people congregate here for that very reason.
2. You would not be able to express your opinion about shunning openly within your own congregation. If you did you would be booted out pretty quickly.
But people choose to become JWs knowing very well about the above policy!
1. You will not find a single reference to disfellowshipping in the Bible teach book nor the new version of the book.
2. What do you say to born ins like myself who have experienced family pressure to conform from the earliest age?
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You also were careful to steer clear of the blood policy which has caused many people/children to die unnecessarily.
As a last point I have to mention that if you shared the fact with your congregation elders that you were engaging in a defense of your beliefs on this website you would find yourself out of your congregation in no time at all. With the current policies I suspect even Jesus would be disfellowshipped for engaging the "enemy" if he was around today.
Anyhooo, welcome again and I hope you're not just trolling and you stay on for some debate.
Greetings