it really is great.
i remember browsing this forum the day after i had joined it, and their was a knock on the door.
i thought it was one of my package from ups but instead it was two sisters.
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Honestly no one here has the time or desire to teach you the truth about Jehovah's witnesses. To each their own. I pity ppl like you because you think you have something special but in reality your walking into something that's going to end up traumatizing you if you ever do realize it's not the truth. You'll see how loving all your jw friends are if you ever decide to leave. Good luck!
someone just told my wife, that those who are just leaving organization or not going anymore will be dfed, has anyone read that or heard of that?
i have seen nothing of that, and according to jackson at royal commission, we are free to go as we please...
No unless you walk away and openly do things they consider bad. You have to be careful and hide if you celebrate anything or go to other churches or talk negatively about org because then your spreading apostasy. They say your free to walk away but that's a lie. Because the moment you start living your life the way you want they disfellowship and take your friends and family away from you.... You don't have a choice
when i was a believer, i endorsed this idea too.
i commented with things like "love jehovah more than your mate" or "love jehovah more than your friends".. it didn't occur to me as i was saying it that jehovah is an idea.
this god concept is an idea that should really pass scrutiny if you're supposed to love it more than anything else.. at best, this means that jehovah is real and you have to love jehovah more than the people in your life, no matter the despicable things he is said to have done, condoned and endorsed in his holy writ.
Love this post because it's so true. And I dint have to feel pressured anymore to saying that nonsense... Cuz i never really felt it. I had to say my baptism day was the best day of my life...better than my wedding day or when my kids were born. Really? Does anyone who days this really mean it? I wonder....
and when as a family we celebrated my first ex j.w birthday, my sons present to me was a " pen".
that pen i am now searching for.
i had it 2 hours ago and for the hundredth time i have lost it again, but i always find it.
That's beautiful! My hubby hit his one year mentally out mark last month and I woke up first week of March. That's the best present in itself I think. Can't ask for anything better than my life!
i was brainwashed to believe you generally shouldn't relax much.. demons can enter you if you meditate or even relax your brain too much for one second.
always be on guard.. scriptures criticizing laziness were repeated often.
https://www.openbible.info/topics/laziness "be kind to yourself" and all that.. you need to strenuously exert yourself for jehoopla and you're worthless if you don't.. most forms of fun were extinguished.
Well I've got two babies that keep me pretty busy but if it wasn't for that.... i would definitely feel like this. What do i do with my time now that i don't need to go to mtgs or preaching or prepare for mtgs and preaching. Or have our family worship night? And for my husband especially since he had to constantly prepare parts every week and have elder mtgs and shepherding. Well thank god we don't because with these two babies it would have been crazy to do all that... i would not be very happy...in fact is I'd be very stressed and frustrated because just trying to get out of the house with these two is a mission. Honestly I don't know how JWs do it... No wonder they're always tired and stressed.
so i had my first appointment with a counsellor, of course i explained about being a born in jw, mentally leaving, the penalty of doing so and therefore the mental strain of pretending to be someone i'm not.
her response was that she couldn't help me with that because leaving a cult was a "lifestyle choice".
i tried to say to her that its a cult not a religion and how it brain washed me but no.
one day at art class, we were told we were to draw a naked woman.
i knew as a witness this would be wrong, but i awaited the lesson in anticipation, it would be the first time i had seen a naked woman.
i remember sitting at my esal waiting ten or fifteen minutes for her to appear.
My first act of rebellion was reading all the Harry Potter books. I read the first 3 in 6th grade and then stopped because my conscience aka the Watchtower through talks of the elders in the congregation said i shouldn't. Anyways i absolutely love them and am a bit obsessed!
so, i am around 50,4th gen born in- christmas.
strange thing this christmas thing.
i've been watching people this year, really watching them.
I feel the same way. We are celebrating Christmas this year in hiding but i don't want to do this forver. But at the same time I know when my mom sees a Christmas tree in my house it will break her heart. she might just break down and cry Infront of me and i just keep imagining this. Such a bitter sweet time. I want to go all out next Christmas but i know when i do it will bring some sad, and probably nasty consequences...
just wondering about that as i was watching the news tonight with lester holt, the weatherperson was dylan dryer i believe her name is, who is also on the today show, she was wearing what pregnant women have been wearing for more than ten years now which is the formfitting style of maternity dress.
just wondering if the sisters in the hall are doing the same thing, because back in the day the old elderettes and female pioneers would have an earful to say about a pregnant women who doesn't wear the appropriate maternity wear, showing off that big belly and so on.
btw, i don't care for that style on pregnant women at all, too revealing to me, i don't have kids but couldn't imagine showing off a 30lb belly like that, seems a bit inappropriate to me, imho i guess i should add here..
Well i didn't...and most who i know didn't. I wore those long to the floor loose dresses. My belly still showed quite a bit cuz i was HUGE! One sister i know who is a pioneer though took her maternity pics in a very tight and very short dress. Another had her maternity pics in lingerie and open sheer gown on top which exposed her belly. You can go ahead and take those pics but to put them in Facebook is a bit inappropriate for a jw. I remember when i was still in i was talking to other mommies about leggings during pregnancy...how it was the most comfortable thing to wear and we literally had to excuse ourselves for doing so. We even mentioned how Tony Morris said it was inappropriate!😂
i think all of us on this forum would like to welcome all the newbies that have joined in the last six months or so ,if i`m not mistaken there seems to be an influx lately.. elders , ms ,and sisters.
speak up and make a comment , are you happy you came here ?.
we`d love to here from you.. smiddy.
Thanks for the welcome. ..I've been awake for 7 months now thanks to my husband who helped me see ttatt. It was exactly a week after my 2nd baby was born that I woke up. We recently celebrated my husband's birthday and I can't wait to celebrate my baby boys's 2nd birthday coming up next month! He didn't have a first birthday but I will make up for it this year!
Welcome to everyone else! Enjoy life, every moment of every day! It's all yours now!
