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  So I got engaged...

  by frogonmytoe in

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  ...to my boyfriend, we're going to have one of those weddings ('gay' weddings to the straights).. although my jw family know i'm gay, and not going to meetings, only one of my sisters has sussed the situation.

  but i think after 3 years it's about time i told them.

  especially if sometime in the future i'll turn up with a (gay) wedding ring.

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  Shunning for inactive ones?

  by frogonmytoe in

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  i visited my sister in a small town in the midst of the country, the town has a population of 3,000 and there's about 70 in the cong.

  anyway, there was a local needs talk a few months ago about associating with family members who didn't live under your roof and no longer went to meetings.

  one family of an elder dad and three sons (one an elder too, the others have stopped going) and a daughter (still going but married a 'worldly') are quite prominent and one half of a typical congregational feud.

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  We should get some of these printed up for next year's memorial (tm)

  by frogonmytoe in

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  http://www.somethingawful.com/photoshop-phriday/jehovahs-witness-flyer/1/.

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  What problem did being a JW leave with your personality?

  by frogonmytoe in

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  and i don't (necessarily) mean a religious or spiritual one.. for example, i think the traces of guilt and paranoia i often fight with come from being a born-in, but my biggest issue by far is not being able to live in the moment.. i have listened to the power of now audiobook (and eckhart tolle's voice put me to sleep) so i read it instead.

  i have read other self-help books, most of them buddhist in leaning, but i still find it hard to stop thinking only in the future (thanks to the great trib, armageddon), or in the past (jesus, flood, 1914 being responsible for that).

  and whilst i no longer believe the big a is looming, and barely give anything else a second thought, my behaviour has projected itself, and i still find it difficult just to 'be' in the moment, enjoying and savouring what i'm doing, and doing it to the best of my ability, i'm forever thinking what is coming up, and what i did badly last time.. my sister said the last time i visited her that she felt like she was waiting for something to happen "but not like armageddon, something else".

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  Out and Gay but fed up of 'fading' - advice please.

  by frogonmytoe in

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  someone once quoted gandhi to me, but i don't actually think it was gandhi, saying that man can only be happy when what he says, what he believes and what he does are all in harmony.. how many of us led lives that meant all three of those were at loggerheads whilst jws?.

  i came out as gay when still a witness, to my family first and then my friends.

  they were all accepting of me, to varying degrees, but accepting.. i even asked the elders for help.

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  "Something amusing to get you reading my post"

  by frogonmytoe in

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  i have been reading threads on here for months, having not been to a meeting in about 3 years, and spending the year prior to that avoiding them.

  considering i am gay and now live with my boyfriend, i think we can consider me officially drifted, or fallen away, or whatever semantic nonsense the wts uses for specifying the manner of our waking up.

  anyway, i thought it about time i said hello and hopefully make some new friends with whom i can talk about things.

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