Can you invite her over for coffee to catch up? Maybe you could start with asking about the meetings after you've caught up a bit on family, etc.. She reached out to you, she'll probably be willing to talk. Just sit back and allow her to do the talking while you listen. You seem like a pretty insightful woman from your posts, I think you'll know what to say. You already know you have to go slow. I'm keeeping a good thought for you. Hopefully you'll be able to slowly awaken her! All the best.
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I am DF'd and a JW sister called me to tell me she wants to leave
by KateWild inone of my dear loved ones called me.
she knows i am df'd and she wanted to reach out to me.
she fell away for a few years, and when she came back i had a study with her before she became active again.
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Discussion with some elders
by GoUnion inhello everyone just wanted to relate a situation that occurred a few days ago.
so i have quit going to meetings for a few months now based on some issues i have with the explanations of current doctrines.
my wife is none too happy with this but over the last few months we have had some date nights and have tentitively agreed to disagree.
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ruderedhead
You know the elders in your cogregation. Maybe you just have some decent fellows who won't rock the boat for you if you don't make waves? I know there are some good guys out there.
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This is my first post
by Make Lemonade ini wanted to express appreciation to the members of this forum.
there are resources here that are deep.
like we heard from the stage, "what is your depth and breadth of bible knowledge?
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ruderedhead
Welcome! You sound like a person with great integrity!
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First Post...Hi everyone! Thanks for all of your help over the years!
by stuckinarut2 inwell... as they say on talk back radio "i'm a long time listener, first time caller"(poster in this case!).
i have been a "lurker" for several years, but never had the courage to take the step and join up...until now.. i really want to thank everyone for their insights and comments throughout the forum.
although i have not contibuted to discussions, i have benefitted very much from all of your comments and observations on all topics.
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ruderedhead
Welcome!
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A Saturday Knock on the Door & the JWN Forum
by kepler inthis is, of course, a recurrent topic that's made possible whenever a kingdom hall decides to march out on your neighborhood and street.. today it happened again in my neighborhood as a drum up for the memorial observance scheduled for monday the 14th of april.. why christ's passion and death should be observed on a monday of holy week i failed to ask this morning.
perhaps someone else might like to volunteer, but it seemed just another reason to be sceptical about the whole thing, though hardly ranking with changing ancient chronologies to get jerusalem's temple destruction 2520 years before 1914.. anyway two gentlemen in white shirts and ties greeted me politely enough at my door and presented me with a flyer about an event which they described as momentous.
they asked me if i had ever intended one and i assented.
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ruderedhead
I think you handled it perfectly well!
They are out full force, apparently! They were on my street yesterday (Sat.), and there were at least 6 women working quickly.I haven't seen them in my neighborhood in at least a year, maybe more. I didn't want to, but answered the door and quickly told her no thank you and closed the door quickly. I was on the phone and not thinking, or would have asked he rto place me on the DNC list.
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40 Years Today
by Still Totally ADD inyes that's right reopened mind and me have been married 40 years ago today.
we had a little party today at our uu congregation.
we brought wine for the pot luck dinner we had today.
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ruderedhead
HAPPY 40TH, Still Totally AAD & Reopened mind!
Here's to 40 more!
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Joining a Church and advice from co-workers!!!!!!!!!!
by Jon Preston inso im obviously out mentally....i havent da-ed but i cant care less!
but.....my co workers are encouraging me to find and join a church.
this person is particularly "wisdomonian" meaning she seems to solve and assist many an ailing indicidual in my field.
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ruderedhead
Why not look at some local churches website, find a few that you think might be a good fit for your family & your beliefs, and take turns checking them out? do you want a contemporary worship service, or traditional? Perhaps a blend? Obviously you want a church with younger families.Do you want the option of a Saturday evening service? It might take a few tries, but make sure you and your wife check out a few in order to make sure that your entire family is comfortable there.
I'm still looking for a new spiritual home, but haven't looked too hard. I'm checking out a new one in the next couple weeks, it's one that has Saturday evening services, and they do a lot of good in the community, such as offering free dinner and showers to those that need them on Sundays. I personally believe that is following Christ's example.
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Might Get to See My Grandchildren Today
by mrquik inmy oldest daughter is still in the cult.
i haven't seen my grandchildren in 5 yrs.
my son-in-law's father died this week & the funeral is today.
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ruderedhead
I hope it goes smoothly, mrquik.
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Black sheep of the family-my life as an ExJW
by bsand20 ini was a 3rd generation jw, half the congregation i attended was made up of my entire mom's side of the family, 2 of the 3 elders were my grandpa and uncle.
my first memory of the organization was when they announced my mom's name in the meeting saying she had been reinstated....it was 1988 and i was 6 years old....i didn't understand it then, but when i asked my mom why was she crying and why did they say her name in the meeting, she said "it's because i've been good!".
so she went back and after a period of time assisting constantly, she was reinstated.
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ruderedhead
You have quite a story! Wow! You must be a very understanding, loving, kind woman! And a true Christian, unlike most of your family.
I'm sorry that your Mom has done this to you, probably under pressure form the elder. But perhaps you should turn the tables on them, send a note and tell her that although you love her, you agree that you need to end unnecessary communication as you don't want your precious children exposed to such a vindictive cult and its members or their false teachings. You prefer that they associate with real Christians, who follow Christ. And if she ever decides to exit the cult, you will accept her with open arms. Please let her know your door is always open.
Continue to enjoy your life and your freedom! All the best to you!
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Buying a body of elders
by hoser inyes, everyone has a price.
a number of years ago in a congregation i once was in there was a wealthy businessman in the congregation.
he made sure that all of the elders had annual vacations overseas or to the tropics paid for by himself.
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ruderedhead
Yes, most congregations most likely have their "favorites". We all probably have some ridiculous stories, just not as extreme as yours. I know I do., and have heard of some. And if you were a sister w/o a believing mate, forget it! I had a "brother" who was obviously a nut job leave a threatening message on my answering machine one time just because my son had called there and not left a message on their machine! I went to an elder ,all I wanted was for him to speak to the guy, and he brushed it off. Pissed me off, I simply don't take well to that type of thing, and let the elder know if it happened again, I'd go to the police! I never did fit well in that congo. That is the one I actually exited from.