Posts by ruderedhead

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Leaving...

by LouBelle in

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friends

i just broke down in such an ugly cry at work.

walked outside and just sobbed my guts out.

i am so very unhappy here.

(((LouBelle))) You have to take care of your emotional health, or your physical health will suffer as well. You have been given some sage advice from some on here. Please try and get your ducks in a row before you hand in your resignation. That is, if you think you can bear it. I'm not talking about months, maybe just a week or two to line up your next job, even if it is a temp position, talk to creditors, etc. Hopefully the temp agency can place you in a job quickly that will be a better fit for you.

Then, if possible, please get some professional help. I gather from some of your posts that you have been through the wringer. I think you carry that burden by yourself, and that can be a heavy load. You have been so kind to others on here, you are much needed and appreciated. Please allow a professional to help you if possible. Allow them to remove some of your burden, LouBelle. You deserve to be happy. Wishing you much happiness.

rudered

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I just feel alone

by joe134cd in

i just feel isolated and tired of the situation i am in.

no witness visits, and this just makes me even more spiritually lethargic..

ruderedhead

Joe, you're not isolated, you have everyone on this board. You can pm anyone and we will respond, and flipper has apparently given you his phone number. He seems like a great guy, so you might want to use that number.

Is the weather nice where you live? Do you have the ability to get out and walk/bike/rollerblade? Get out there!

What are your interests? Politics? Health? Gardening? Please try and find a group to join where there are people that share your interests and that will give you less of a feeling of isolation. That may help fill the social void you are probably feeling.

Have you found a new spiritual home? If not, perhaps you could look for one. You will probably not find a perfect one, but I believe that filling your spiritual void will assist in lifting your spiritual lethargy. Many also are involved in the community, so they may have some type of program you would be interested in helping them with.

Can you take a class through your Community education dept., or at the local community college? Hopefully you will find things that will fulfill you, and you can lose these feelings you are having. Feel free to pm me anytime! All the best to you!

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I wanted to punch this elder so bad!

by OneDayillBeFree in

so i decided to attend the meeting last.

since i haven't gone in about 2 weeks, and i leave as soon as it ends, and elder decided to corner me at the end.

lately i've been through some very depressing family issues that are non-jw related so i haven't been my best at acting like i care about the org.

ruderedhead

You handled yourself well. He is simply a smug jerk without much thinking ability (look at his responses), so having someone else do the thinking for him is right up his alley. I would screen my calls for a few weeks, and avoid the meetings for as long as possible. Take comfort in knowing you are the better man here. He is just not worth your wasting any emotions on.

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Ethnic language Congs. are closing here due to no young people!!!

by Witness 007 in

ruderedhead

May I ask why you are calling it "the truth"? You know it isn't. Old habits die hard?

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So tired of life

by LouBelle in

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friends

i am so tired of waking up without hope.

so tired of fighting one more day...i just want it to end as painless as possible.

i truly don't have the willpower or strength anymore..

ruderedhead

LouBelle, please call a professional right now! I don't know how the health system works in your country, but it sounds like you need to talk to someone immediately. Is there a hotline you could call? Please seek help now.

I know there are things in your life you need to change from your posts here. Is there anyone at all that could help you start to make that happen? Even a very small change to start? Your post has me very concerned about your well being. You have given so many on here such sage advice. Please talk to a professional.

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Need encouragement

by naazira in

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friends

friends i need your encouragement to turn my back on the organization.

i am feeling sad after telling my conductor that i will be changing to a new congregation.

this is so far from the truth.

ruderedhead

naazira, if you have been researching the wt, you know leaving is the right thing to do. If you have bipolar disorder, staying in is probably a really bad idea. I think it is the brainwashing and guilt doled out at the meetings/assemblies/conventions that is making you hesitate. We have all been there. It takes time. Don't worry about what you told the conductor. It's not like the wt hasn't lied to you, and you are doing what you need, causing the least amount of damage. Keep coming here for encouragement.

Take care of yourself.

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WT: Train your kids to shut up - April 2013 OKM

by aposta-Z in

quote from april 2013 our kingdom ministry; available on here: http://jwleaks.org/ .

" even if they are too young to understand everything that is discussed, children can be trained to remain awake and sit.

quietly.

ruderedhead

Jam, You are so correct, it is sick to beat kids for being normal! I remember an incident at one convention vividly. The venue used at the time was large and had no air conditioning. (The Silverdome in Pontiac, MI). It was hot as heck in there,everyone was hot and tired, and one Mom came into the restroom with a small child, maybe 3 or 4 years old, took her into a stall and beat the tar out of her, yelling at her for not sitting still and being quiet. The kid was sobbing and pleading with her to stop, saying she was sorry and she'd be good. Everyone just sat there and did/said nothing, including myself. I was livid, but I was pretty new, and was unsure if I should step in. Of course I should have! It breaks my heart to this day that I did nothing! I should have stopped it. Could have offered to sit with the child for a while so the Mom could have a break. So glad my eyes were opened, and I am out of that religion.

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What to Say When a Witness Comes to Your Door

by Darth Rutherford in

jw: yes thats right.. me: good!

jw: yes, thats true.. me: good.

jw: yes, sure do.. me: tell me, john, what would you do if jesus christ told you that you shouldnt follow jehovahs witnesses?.

ruderedhead

Oh my goodness! That is quite a conversation, wish this had been posted a day earlier.

I had a couple of young jw's come to my door Saturday morning. I was getting ready to go to a shower, and was in my robe yet. The young man just apologized for catching me at a bad time and quickly offered a book, which I politely declined. They rarely come in my neighborhood, but perhaps next time someone I know stops by, I will use some of this. I don't usually engage them in any conversation, But this might make someone start thinking! Thank you.

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My daughter asked to be an unbaptized publisher. What do I do?

by Indian Larry in

brief background:.

i am a 3rd gen witness.

several of her friends are already baptized.

ruderedhead

Is her Mom pushing for her to become an unbaptised publisher as well? You have been given some really great words of wisdom here, but if Mom wants this, that might make things a bit more complicated. Ask her to wait until she is 18, using Jesus as an example as was previously suggested. Then slowly, slowly, make sure she knows EVERYTHING that is false about this org without ever putting it down. Hopefully she will agree to wait, and that will give you the time needed to open her eyes completely. Is there any way you can come up with a fun activity you all can do together on a meeting night maybe once a month? Sporting event, play, anything? I think missed meetings here and there can lessen the effect of the meetings.

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Using JW preaching tips to speak the news about TTATT?

by El_Guapo in

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friends

so a buddy of mine called me out of the blue and said that he was in town and wanted to do lunch on saturday.

(he has no idea that i am inactive) he left bethel last sept. and lives about 80 miles away.

he's currently serving as an ms. as we are eating our lunch he asks me if i have read the july 15th wt.

ruderedhead

Well done! You showed great restraint, and hopefully you will sometime soon again have the opportunity to "witness" to him.