Posts by ruderedhead

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Added to a fb group w/o permission

by ruderedhead in

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i don't know if anyone here can assist me, i hope so.

it's not an earth shattering problem compared to many on here, but i am bugged by it!.

i have been added 2x to a christian fb group w/o being asked by the same gentleman.

ruderedhead

Thank you, I will email fb support. I was unaware that I could email them.

The leave group icon kept disappearing, Madman, or I would have done it myself. Thank you both for responding!

Rudered

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Added to a fb group w/o permission

by ruderedhead in

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i don't know if anyone here can assist me, i hope so.

it's not an earth shattering problem compared to many on here, but i am bugged by it!.

i have been added 2x to a christian fb group w/o being asked by the same gentleman.

ruderedhead

I don't know if anyone here can assist me, I hope so. It's not an earth shattering problem compared to many on here, but I am bugged by it!

I have been added 2x to a Christian FB group w/o being asked by the same gentleman. We all know that FB sends you notification when someone adds you to a group, and who added you. The first time I was able to remove myself. This time I am unable to as the unjoin icon disappears every time I attempt to click on it. I finally messaged this person, asking him to please remove me. Easy enough. Instead he msgs me back about how he didn't add me, I could do it myself, just kind of rambling. I msgd him back, explaining the notification thing, the unjoin icon disappearing when I attempted to unjoin myself, perhaps he had found me on another xjw place. ( I think he had sent a friend request quite a while ago that I accepted, then unfriended him when he started adding me to groups w/o my permission) I asked him to please remove me again, and wished him well. It's an easy request, I was not being rude or nasty. INSTEAD, he says blame it on fb, and gives me his phone number and says I can call him to talk about it!!! WTH? I msgd back to please just honor the request and remove me as I am unable to myself.

He is still not removing me! I don't need to talk to him, that's kind of creepy! Any suggestions? I just don't want to be a part of this group, there is nothing wrong with it, I just don't want to belong!

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Turns out it was true - "the truth" was the only reason my marriage lasted so long

by Shattered Reality in

i haven't really been on here in like, a year.

my stbx introduced me to this site and then a whole buch of life happened and i just sort of never had time for forums.

but here i am at 3am, another sleepless night, and i feel like i am simply lost.

ruderedhead

This is so messed up!

Your kids emotional well being and mental health HAVE to be your priority right now. Not what your stbx needs. Screw him, he's not thinking about his children at all, just his needs.He actually asked you for advice on how to flirt with her?! And you didn't kick him in his balls and throw his butt to the curb?

While it is commendable that you wanted him to be the best he could be, you have children together. Why in the hell would you tell him to go get laid by a different girl or two? He could have gotten someone pregnant, or brought back an std to YOU! This is not a healthy environment for the children or you. Sorry, but you need to tell this wreck of a man to leave now. He can Go to his parents,sleep on a friends couch, see if his topless friend will allow him to sleep on her couch. get his act together. Not your problem.

You sound like a hard worker, a woman who will work hard to support herself and her family. Work on being the best version of yourself. Get an attorney to make sure you have things covered before he springs any surprises on you, as I've seen some men do. They sue for 50% custody, or full custody, and ask for child support from their exes. And some have gotten it! DO NOT allow him to play you. And as long as the kids don't know about your flirty friend, no harm if it makes you feel better.

The children need a stable, loving environment with at least one mature, responsible parent. From your post, I think you are capable of being that parent. All the best to you! Please realize you deserve it!

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First post

by BenRichards in

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i've been lurking here off and on for a few years, figured i would introduce myself and share the clif notes version of my story.. i'm in my late 30's and was born in.

mom was a jw, dad wasn't.

got baptized in my teens and started dating my eventual wife.

ruderedhead

Welcome! Don't know if I missed it in the great advice you have already received, but have you looked at jwfacts.com yet? That is another great resource.

Whatever you do, go SLOWLY!

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I hear it but I can't believe it

by Sour Grapes in

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my elder friend told me that his kh is in need of upgrading their electronic system so that they can be ready for the big zone meeting in november and they need the flat screen televisions mounted to also enjoy all future special meetings put on by the branch.

the branch has given them the exact specifications and he mentioned the branch wants to use apple products.

they passed a resolution for a one time donation by the publishers to pay for the $6,000.00 system.

ruderedhead

What about those congregations/individuals that can't afford the technology? Foe some, that will be a large financial burden.

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I'm meeting with my congregation Elders Today HELP PLEASE

by LennaB in

meeting with my congregation elders today.. going to tell them about the things i discovered about c.t russell.

(astrology, racism, ect.

) i don't know how to present this information or what to say.

ruderedhead

How did it go, LennaB? Hope you're doing o.k.

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HULK HOGAN will he convert to Jehovah's Witnesses?

by Watchtower-Free in

.from jw instagram .

http://instagram.com/jw_witnesses.

caption:" a few sisters were out in the tract campaign in clearwater, florida this morning and placed a tract with wrestling personality hulk hogan.

ruderedhead

Whoa! Lighten up, Sparky!

Have a cocktail, it's 5 o'clock somewhere!

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WOW. Sorry Its been so Long! Update:After i declined the shep call

by Jon Preston in

i dont know if anyone forgot me or remembered.

but lets start where i left off.

sooo.

ruderedhead

Why on earth did you go to a meeting?! What were you thinking? Had you thought it through, you would have realized that it would all start over again.

When they persist in asking why you are helping with Grandma, tell them it is the Christian thing to do. Quote a scripture or two.

While you wait to be moved someplace else, are the two of you looking for friends? Have you joined any groups that you're interested in, done some community volunteer work, maybe join a group that walks or runs together? Please find friends elsewhere that aren't conditional so you will not be tempted to go back. Maybe soon you will be willing to look at some local churches that are active in the community?

But stay away from the hall, and please ignore their calls/texts. It's the best way to stop them.

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Conversation with 4 elders: A study in smear tactics.

by problemaddict in

bucket shop bill has a thread in which they are "counseled" for something, that ends up not even being true.

instead of the elder who made the accusation apologizing to them, they are made to feel like they should appreciate his overexuberence.. it struck me that this is a common tactic.

here is a story of my own.

ruderedhead

Fantastic!

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Sept 1 service meeting mystery revealed

by Saltheart Foamfollower in

the letter has appeared at last - just for uk.

it is a money grab for the new bethel which has been approved.

there is a video to be shown - just watched it - brief summary of uk bethels, why current one is too small, why we need money to build a new one.

ruderedhead

I think putting down $0 would rattle them more than any fake amount.