yo dudes.. .
i've been studying ttatt for nearly a year now, i'm pretty much convinced wt theology is a crock, but i can't just leave as i don't want to lose family, and i simply can't disappoint my elderly aging parent.. .
i'm prepared for the long game fade (could be a few years), but have been sowing seeds with the wifey little bit by little bit.
Maybe you should slow down just a bit for now. If you want your wife out with you, you can't risk scaring her. It will be worth it in the end, don't you think? Just make up a number for the silly tracts. They can leave as many as they want, very few people wii actually read them.
I hope your wife wakes up quickly so you don't have to tolerate this for too much longer! All the best on your journey, captain!
a few weeks ago i got a visit from a sister from the old congregation.
she was our uber pioneer, fearless, regular and often accompanied by her husband, a ministerial servant.
she didnt know i lived here so it was a brief visit after she found out i had disassociated myself.. i got a knock at the door a few minutes ago and it was her husband this time.
And people, 70 is not old & with one foot in the grave! My Mom is 77 & still works! Some of her friends do as well!
a few weeks ago i got a visit from a sister from the old congregation.
she was our uber pioneer, fearless, regular and often accompanied by her husband, a ministerial servant.
she didnt know i lived here so it was a brief visit after she found out i had disassociated myself.. i got a knock at the door a few minutes ago and it was her husband this time.
Great that he's waking up, but sounds like he could be in for a rough ride if he's not careful & moves too quickly.
You are awesome to be there for him, zoos. Sounds like he's going to need a friend. He'll probably lose most of his.
yep,.
i dropped my ipad on the floor and it cracked like a fresh sheet of blue crystal on breaking bad.
if the hollywood movie esque crack in the glass of my favourite posession wasn't enough, as it hit and smashed, i turned from my careful aiming and accidently peed all over my prized apple device.... when it rains....it pours.. listening to opie and anthony radio show so much so as to carry my ipad with me during midnight toilet trips, now seems excessive and regrettable.. get out, get out, get out of the toilet my people.....my apple, the great, has fallen..... .
TMI!!
the last report i gave in was for the month of may, meaning as of today, i have missed 6 months of reports, and am officially inactive!
(though the last time i actually went out was march, gave fake reports for april and may).
feels like a milestone.
Congratulations!
a little background, i faded in 2007 and have been out ever since.
i started studying at 18 and have no jw realitives.
i'm returing because my life is heading in the wrong direction.
SpaceMadness, do what is best for you, but may I ask how you have tried to make friendships outside of the jw's? Perhaps you have been hindered by residual guilt fro your jw days as you attemt to venture out into the world?
Some have suggested finding a new church. Since doctrine isn't an issue for you, why not find an active church where you will make unconditional friends & you can be involved in the goings on there? Is there not one person where you work that you connect with that you could hang out with ocassionally? Find an organization that interests you that you could volunteer at where you will meet people and do some good in the community as well.
True friendships take time to develop. There are ups & downs. But in the end, you have real friends who really care about you. If you go back, even the spiritually weak ones will abandon you if they feel you are spiritually weak. They don't want to be abandonded by their families. Please think about it. And remember, you have all your friends on here! I'm in SE Michigan, if you are in my area, I'd be happy to connect with you! All the best!
my believing mother, with whom i've recently reconnected after twenty years, and i had a mostly pleasant conversation this weekend.
i had planned to visit one of these weekends before the weather gets rough and she called to warn me away this weekend - a vicious storm was coming through.. she mentioned that my uber-dub sister and her family would also be there.
i carefully and calmly explained that being there at the same time would not be a very good thing.
So glad you are reconnecting. You are going down the right path. Actions can speak louder than words.
Obviously I'm not/never was an elder, but I agree with Kate. Somethings not right .Did they lose anyone else's?
Ask him to make sure he does not delete the texts. He can tell them what he thinks he did, but that he doesn't want to make up something so important. Do not put it in writing.He already did that once. Should they give him any guff for it during the co visit, he should show the co the text msgs stating that THEY lost his time slips.
hubby is now giving 5 days a week to the cult.
they see more of him while he is awake than i do.
when he is home he is either sleeping or in his office on his computer.
jgnat is spot on, kari! Online uni would give you not only an eduacation, but fill the time so you can't dwell on the jw's.
Is there a someplace you could get a part-time job? Even Wal-mart? A small office? That would give you some $$ of your own, and be another way to fill time so you aren't dwelling on the jw situation. Plus you would have the opportunity to meet new people and develop relationships.
Do you belong to a church? Are you looking for one? Again, there would be new people to meet and do things with, and many churches are active in the community, so you could volunteer and do some good for others as well as yourself.
Own your life! Please don't allow the situation with your hubby/jw to overwhelm you and run your life. Easier said than done, I know, but so worth the effort of having a life well lived sweet girl!
when you look at the image above what do you see?
a sneaker or an outward display that i am now following after another religious group?.
well yesterday i had a 10 minute conversation with an elder who finally got the balls to call me.
That is so bizarre!
