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  What to Say When a Witness Comes to Your Door

  by Darth Rutherford in

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  2. beliefs

  jw: yes thats right.. me: good!

  jw: yes, thats true.. me: good.

  jw: yes, sure do.. me: tell me, john, what would you do if jesus christ told you that you shouldnt follow jehovahs witnesses?.

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  ruderedhead

  Oh my goodness! That is quite a conversation, wish this had been posted a day earlier.

  I had a couple of young jw's come to my door Saturday morning. I was getting ready to go to a shower, and was in my robe yet. The young man just apologized for catching me at a bad time and quickly offered a book, which I politely declined. They rarely come in my neighborhood, but perhaps next time someone I know stops by, I will use some of this. I don't usually engage them in any conversation, But this might make someone start thinking! Thank you.
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  My daughter asked to be an unbaptized publisher. What do I do?

  by Indian Larry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  brief background:.

  i am a 3rd gen witness.

  several of her friends are already baptized.

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  Is her Mom pushing for her to become an unbaptised publisher as well? You have been given some really great words of wisdom here, but if Mom wants this, that might make things a bit more complicated. Ask her to wait until she is 18, using Jesus as an example as was previously suggested. Then slowly, slowly, make sure she knows EVERYTHING that is false about this org without ever putting it down. Hopefully she will agree to wait, and that will give you the time needed to open her eyes completely. Is there any way you can come up with a fun activity you all can do together on a meeting night maybe once a month? Sporting event, play, anything? I think missed meetings here and there can lessen the effect of the meetings.
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  Using JW preaching tips to speak the news about TTATT?

  by El_Guapo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so a buddy of mine called me out of the blue and said that he was in town and wanted to do lunch on saturday.

  (he has no idea that i am inactive) he left bethel last sept. and lives about 80 miles away.

  he's currently serving as an ms. as we are eating our lunch he asks me if i have read the july 15th wt.

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  ruderedhead

  Well done! You showed great restraint, and hopefully you will sometime soon again have the opportunity to "witness" to him.
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  A newbie...

  by Jaidubdub in

  1. social
  2. current

  i'm new here but have been lurking here for a couple of months.

  i am 3rd gen born in but have been inactive for a few years but always had the intention to make another go of the truth, but not now that i know ttatt.

  i became inactive due to the inhumane treatment from family members who are elders.

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  ruderedhead

  Welcome!
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  My babies! :) Just a feel good picture.... makes you smile.

  by Butterflyleia85 in

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  ruderedhead

  So precious!
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  What's the incentive for becoming a JW now? July 15th 2013 Watchtower

  by dazed but not confused in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

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  So glad I'm out! Can't believe I was ever so gullible. Reading about their constant flip flopping makes me dizzy. It's not new light, it's called covering your butt!
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  Alive And Kicking

  by jbeau504 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i don't know how i made it back to my computer in one piece but here goes.

  yes i know that some people probably won't remember or recognize me.

  i made only a scarce amount of threads after joining up.

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  ruderedhead

  Welcome back, jbeau! Sorry you are having such a difficult time. Please don't feel as if you have no community to turn to, you have everyone on this board!

  Could you get your Mom to go for a physical? Tell her she hasn't seemed her usual self, and you're worried. I hate to say this, but it is possible your Mom is going through menopause. Some women get nutty while they are going through it, and that can be helped by a gyn/hormone specialist who knows what they are doing. I know, I am on bio-identical hormones now, cause I was turning into a major bit**, with anxiety levels through the roof. If there is nothing physically askew, then perhaps you could get her to a professional counselor?

  If your Mom refuses to co-operate, and Granny won't help, then perhaps you need to think seriously about how soon you can get out on your own. You have to take care of your emotional self. Take stock of what you need to do, start making friends outside the org., and start making a life for yourself. All the best to you!
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  I need some serious advice...

  by confusedteenager in

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  i'm almost a year out of high school and of course, i'm not in college.

  i'm a pioneer (sigh) with little to no work experience and having a really hard time finding any work.

  i want to go back to college, but it's going to be difficult now that i'm a pioneer, and my parents cannot really afford the loans that will incur should i pursue going to college.

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  You have been given sound advice, confused. Definately check out the local community college. The counselors there should be able to direct you to grants and loans that are available. They are great starting points at a very reasonable cost, especially when your not sure what direction to go in. And a community college probably won't seem too awful to your parents, since you can stay home. I hope they will be supportive of your decision. They must be aware that the job market is tight, and that one day you need to be on your own and self-supporting. Better to do it while you are young. All the best to you!
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  Your worst convention experience.

  by zeb in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  by a split second rescuing our handicapped son from being pushed down the stairs by a flood of sisters rushing out to see as the drama had started.. the main offender being a special pioneer..

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  It was the hottest Summer in a long time. The 3 day was held at a large concert venue that had no ac. I was there with my youngest child, it was about 100 degrees inside the stadium, and we left our seats to use the restrooms. I left books on our seats to save them, as single Moms rarely were offered help/rides with others once they were baptised. (In fact, I was asked to pick up others, while elders/ms & their fams went alone) Daughter was about 5. When we returned to our seats, a family of obese people had taken over our 1 of our seats, lookedat us in contempt as if we were in their way. I had to hold a hot, bored, squirmy child on my lap for the a.m. session. I was already having doubts, and thought to myself " THIS IS B.S." & left.
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  An apostate goes public

  by Borges in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i mentioned in a thread some weeks ago ( http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/244078/1/first-public-talk-as-an-apostate ), that i was invited to give a talk at a symposium about cults.

  this will take place at the first weekend in may.. i'm going to talk about the difficulties you have to face when leaving the jw.

  yesterday i've got an another invitation to speak to a senior year class in a middle school.

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  ruderedhead

  That's awesome, Borges! Way to put the word out. Who knows who you may prevent from getting involved with jw's or any cult? All the best to you!