Posts by nita6368

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I need some advise (I want to get divorced)

by Leander in

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i'll start this post off by saying i love my wife, she has beautiful qualities and a sweet personality.

however i realize (and i think she does too, though she may not admit it) that since i left the org behind our goals and viewpoints are no longer unified.

as a couple we rarely fight or argue, we still have many of the same values but yet we have some issues that i know will never be fully resolved.

nita6368

Leander,

Great advice so far, I just wanted to add my 2 cents . I was the first in my previous marriage to leave, the ex was the first (disfellowshipped) but he went back full speed ahead he couldn't function without them. I left willingly. He cried, bawled and made my life terrible for about 1 year while we were going through the divorce. I would go out he would call my house 27 times and leave crying messages on the answering machine. He was bound and determined we weren't divorcing because of the rules of the cult. Well, guess what , once the divorce was final he dropped me like a hot potato, not only wasn't I the love of his life anymore I wasn't even his friend. He moved in with someone and was married within 3 months of us being divorced. What I'm trying to say is don't get emotionally drained trying to comfort her and ease her through this, if its your decision to leave, then your the one who has to make the decision, everyone else has to accept it, no choice in the matter. I hope I don't sound heartless but you can't help anyone accept anything they don't want to. Good luck to ya!

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Whom Have You Seen In Concert....

by berylblue in

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...and what was your first concert ever?

nita6368

First concert: Jefferson Starship

38 Special, Survivor, Travis Tritt, Montgomery Gentry, Lori Morgan

Recently : Dale Earnhardt Tribute Concert, Daytona : Delbert McClinton, Alabama, Kenny Chesney, GooGoo Dolls, Sheryl Crow, Brooks & Dunn, Hootie & the Blowfish

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How relieved are you now that your finally set free?

by micheal in

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i was thinking back to the time when i was in my "spiritual paradise" oh about 7 months ago and i can really remember just how unhappy most people really were.

most seemed so loaded down with "privledges" and "responsiblilities" that it just sucked the life out of them.

any spirit they may previously had had faded to mere a shell of their former selves.

nita6368

I was just thinking about this the other day, I remember the first time I went to the kh, they were studying the Creation book at the bookstudy. Naturally the love bombing took place, but they were so fake almost like they had no emotions, the whole scene was kind of smothering (why on earth did I go back?).The other day I saw several witnesses at Walmart, a whole pack of them so to speak, and they still looked so unemotional, you know almost like they were afraid they were going to catch something being out among the world. You can see the cult when you leave it! Glad I am gone !!

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Does anyone else have this problem?

by scumrat in

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it's been 7 years since our divorce was final and every now and then my ex-wife will call and tell what she's up to and how she's doing ect.

ect.

( it's usually a tale of whoa ) anyway i find it kind of hilarious.

nita6368

Hi there Scumrat,

I have this very same problem with my ex, we also divorced 7 years ago. When he remarried , his wife was the best thing to happen to him or so he said. Now he will call out of the blue and want to tell me how bad things are with them. There is nothing I could care less about. I agree with you, it seems that even though they have chose their course they just can't move on.

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a portion of my story

by thegentleman in

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hey everyone, as if you have not heard a story like this before:.

i'm currently studying for exams being a railroad conductor(one of the exams is april 17th).

while that is stressful enough , i've realized that sometimes something as simple as encouragement or support from someone you care about deeply goes a long way.

nita6368

Good Luck on your exams!! My dad was a RR Engineer for 38 years with the ICG RR.

The JW's are different to say the least. I was married to a JW and believe me it's not any better when you marry into it. My inlaws hated me and considered me not good enough all 10 years we were married. Hopefully your friend will see them for what they really are!

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Update from Yizuman Part Three

by Yizuman in

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well folks, i am posting from the library since my phone got disconnected last week friday.

so i may not be able to read any replies here when i leave the computer.

my sis is picking me up sometime around 3:15 pm which is a few minutes or so.. i came to the library today to meet a representative from the voc rehab for an orientation and got an appointment to see someone for new hearing aids on april 23rd at 11 am at the goodwill building here in town.. i also got a hold of an attorney who advised me to file a motion of continious or postponement until i am able to confer with a legal representative about my eviction case.. so i have typed one up here at the library and not sure if i got it all down right, my sis knows what the attorney needs for me to do so i will check and make sure that i got it right through here and make any corrections if she feels it needs any.. the court date is supposed to be this wednesday at 9 am, so hopefully my motion is granted before then.. pretty much all i have to say.. wish me luck!.

nita6368

Just a question, possibly this has been answered before: Why can't he move in with his sister? She seems willing to help him. Then possibly he would have access to phones, internet and such to find a job. You do what you've got to do, it would sure beat being on the street.

If all else fails he may have to move to one of those shelters in the bigger city until he can find a job.

As far as the internet, I have only had the internet for the past three years because of the extra cost and I work a full time job. The internet and telephones are a luxury not a necessity. We survived without them before. They do have a program in most areas where someone with disabilities can get their phone hooked up. Its called Link-Up I think.

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Updated Report by Yizuman - Part Two

by Yizuman in

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ok i went to the welfare office this morning.. the case worker was a very nice lady, her name is maria.

all smiles and very friendly too.. she knows about the wal-mart situation and has gotten alot of employees who have gotten fired for whacked out reasons.. she needs some info from wal-mart, but problem is that wal-mart tends to screw with the social workers trying to get info from them and she's had been given alot of run arounds from them before.

so she told me it would be 2-3 weeks before she gets any info from wal-mart before i can get any help from them.

nita6368

Yizuman,

Do you have a shelter in your town? I don't live in a big town either but the town next to us is a little bigger and they have several shelters there. You may want to check into that.

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Updated Report by Yizuman - Part Two

by Yizuman in

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ok i went to the welfare office this morning.. the case worker was a very nice lady, her name is maria.

all smiles and very friendly too.. she knows about the wal-mart situation and has gotten alot of employees who have gotten fired for whacked out reasons.. she needs some info from wal-mart, but problem is that wal-mart tends to screw with the social workers trying to get info from them and she's had been given alot of run arounds from them before.

so she told me it would be 2-3 weeks before she gets any info from wal-mart before i can get any help from them.

nita6368

Just a little note....

It will have to be verified that you are no longer working at Walmart and when you received your last paycheck to verify how much money (if any) you have received this month. That is a federal regulation that ALL caseworkers must follow or they will lose their job. Walmart uses a 3rd party source to ver their income ver (The Work Number) The info is usually returned in a week. If the ex employee can get someone from the local Walmart to ver they are no longer working there things can go quicker. I am a caseworker and can verify that most Walmart managers will verify NOTHING to us. You need to understand that we caseworkers due have federal regulations to follow or we lose our jobs. As sad as anyone's situation may seem, I am not going to lose my job or sidestep regulations for anyone. I have a family to support myself.

Another thing, for every honest person that comes in our office needing help, there are 10 who are trying to screw the system. I just had a client tell me they had no income. They verified it with a written statement from their landlord. When I went to Walmart, guess who was stocking shelves. My client!! She had started work at Walmart in March...was laid off for 3 weeks and came in for food stamps. She never reported going back to work and has been drawing stamps since April.Several thousand dollar claim. Thats why we have to verify. There are people out there who lie.

Yizuman,

Is there a food pantry or community needline in your town? That is where we send our clients while they are waiting for there case to be approved. Usually a food stamp application makes you eligible.

Edited by - nita6368 on 6 February 2003 12:59:26

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