Hmmmmm,
Sounds like she's scared and not sure if she's ready to be a mom and also a little immature.
Josie
Edited by - jozb5 on 9 August 2002 16:52:27
ok...3 days ago, i found out that i was going to be a father!!
good new right?
well then she says that she is considering having an abortion...which i am totally against....so we discussed it...then she started to think that she might have the child....so she talked it over with her twin sister...and she told her to get the abortion...now she says she wants the abortion...now i am upset...not onlly does she want the abortion...but she wants me to pay for the entire thing...so not only am i going to be terminating a developing life...but i have to pay for it????
Hmmmmm,
Sounds like she's scared and not sure if she's ready to be a mom and also a little immature.
Josie
Edited by - jozb5 on 9 August 2002 16:52:27
ok...3 days ago, i found out that i was going to be a father!!
good new right?
well then she says that she is considering having an abortion...which i am totally against....so we discussed it...then she started to think that she might have the child....so she talked it over with her twin sister...and she told her to get the abortion...now she says she wants the abortion...now i am upset...not onlly does she want the abortion...but she wants me to pay for the entire thing...so not only am i going to be terminating a developing life...but i have to pay for it????
Hi, I'm Josie.
You ask for advice, here it is.
I assume this is your girlfriend and I assume you weren't using protection (right?) Don't do that again, because of the situation you find yourself in now. Every sex act has the potential of creating life, no matter what kind of birth control you, use unless you're sterial.
OK - now you and your girl have a baby on the way and she doesn't want to have it. Well quite frankly if she doesn't want to have it you have no power to stop her. So where do you go from here? Because you have said that if she gets rid of the baby it will affect your relationship. Well I would sit down with her and tell her how you feel about it. That you want the baby and if she get rid of it you will never feel the same about her.
If she goes ahead and gets the abortion, you should only pay half. She should be responsible for the other half.
Question: Did you two ever discuss what you would do if and when she ever got pregnant? And how old are you two anyway?
P.S. If she loves you she should be sensitive to your needs and wants too.
a reunion perhaps, a party, a beautiful view shared with an equally stunning partner, what was ever, the happiest moment in your life?
how did you find this emotion, exactly what did it feel like, can you remember and perhaps share your sentiments here with the rest of us?
please take us there with you.. celtic mark - cornwall uk.
I have more that one: When I married my dear hubby and when I had each of our kiddies.
Josie
ahh, mothers.
reading jozb5s thread on her mother made me think of this.
i recently told my husband and he is even more disgusted with my mother.
Puffs,
I think your and my mom are somehow related. Your comment about how she said you were fat and would never get a man was so close to what I had to go through in high school. Starting at about 11 I started to get very chubby, which my mom couldnt stand, and she would take great joy in make me feel like a fat slob. When I was 13 my mom decided she wanted a family portrait and that we would all wear jeans. Well since I was so chubby she was always saying that she couldnt find me any clothes (she couldnt because she always dragged me to the teen shop which never had anything for chubby girls) and she made me wear some of her old jeans (size 15) and later would brag to people that she was smaller than her 13 year old daughter (she was size 13).
It's not the worst thing she has ever done, but my sister and I feel that she lost interest in us when we got to be pre-teens and when we were teenagers she was down-right hostile and loved to try to play all of us against each other. It's amazing that my siblings and I even talk today because she still tries to play those games, all the while spouting how we need to be closer as a family.
Josie
P.S. She has told me that if my hubby loved me he would tell me to lose weight.
ahh, mothers.
reading jozb5s thread on her mother made me think of this.
i recently told my husband and he is even more disgusted with my mother.
Ah geez, that was hard to read.
You know what the sad thing about all this is? I thought for the longest that maybe I was the crazy one. That maybe I just wasn't looking at what my mom did in the right way. Maybe in her own twisted way she really does love me. But the things she has done and said to me and then denied...I don't know. I'm a 37 year old mom of 3 kids and it's still hard to forget.
And then to hear or read what other people do to their kids, it's just all to much sometimes.
Josie
many of you have felt at the sharp end, quite particularly so, social exclusion.
emotionally, how did it make you feel?
celtic mark - cornwall uk
Do you mean exclusion while this being in the organisation?
Growing up was hard because my dad was baptised but never attended the meetings regularly, eventually he stopped going and my mom goes every now and then. And we all know what kind of mark that puts against the family. I can't tell you how many times I had to hear about parties or gatherings or whatevers that happened after the fact that we had not been invited to.
Josie
ran into some jws today.
was out to lunch at a restaurant with 2 of my kids.
there were 2 tables full of jws, i wondered what the occasion was.
The arrogance is amazing. They would have your kids disrespect you and disown you. Unbelievable!
What do your kids think about all this?
Josie
this is a continuance of what i related under the weird jw dude topic.. when this happened i think i was about 20 or 21 (1985 or '86), before i married my first husband.
i was living at home and still attending meeting but i had stopped studying when i was 19. i guess my mom felt it was time for me to settle down (i was not dating anyone - how could i?
i wasn't baptised.
I have been married for the last 9 years (10 in dec) to a nice guy who is not a jw.
Josie
this is a continuance of what i related under the weird jw dude topic.. when this happened i think i was about 20 or 21 (1985 or '86), before i married my first husband.
i was living at home and still attending meeting but i had stopped studying when i was 19. i guess my mom felt it was time for me to settle down (i was not dating anyone - how could i?
i wasn't baptised.
This is a continuance of what I related under the weird jw dude topic.
When this happened I think I was about 20 or 21 (1985 or '86), before I married my first husband. I was living at home and still attending meeting but I had stopped studying when I was 19. I guess my mom felt it was time for me to settle down (I was not dating anyone - how could I? I wasn't baptised.) So she decides to pose as me and take out a personal ad to find a husband for me. She got several replies that were local to where we lived and she set it up for me to meet a few of theses guys. All this happened before she told me what she was doing. I was surprised she did this but not shocked, she's done stranger things before.
So I met a couple of these guys. Why? I don't know, maybe I just didn't know how to say no to my mom, maybe I was curious, but these guys were just as weird as the bachelor brothers at the hall and I decided that I wanted no part of it.
The last straw was the day a package came from a Canadian jw bachelor who was looking for a wife. My mom had been corresponding with him and he decided to send several pictures and a tape describing himself and his wants and needs (kinda personal stuff too!) My mom gave me the package and told me to look at the pictures and listen to the tape, which I did. His pictures revealed him to be a tall broad man with a beard wearing a yellow shirt, red pants, and blue suspenders (He said in his tape that this was his favorite outfit and he saw no problem in wearing this to the hall.) Oh, he also thanked me for inviting him to come and visit me during my district convention.
I felt like I was in the twilight zone and my mom wanted me to seriously consider this man as a mate!
After I finished loking everything over, my mom told me that she wanted to write back to this man. And to make the pot sweeter she said that if I wrote the letter she would buy me a pair of shoes.
So I wrote the letter. And I told this mislead man that I was not the one who had been corresponding with him (it was my mother), I was not attracted to him or in anyway interested, and that it would not be a good idea for him to come out and visit.
Now mind you all of this happened in front of my father, who I had regarded up to this point to be a fairly sane and intelligent guy.
Well after I finished and mailed the letter, my mom and dad and I were sitting at the kitchen table and my mom asked if I wrote the letter. I said I had. She asked what did I say. I said that I told him not to come. She got pissed and said I wouldn't get the shoes. I said "No that wasnt the deal. You said that if I wrote the letter, I would get the shoes. You never said what to put in the letter." I then turned to my dad and he said "Jean she's right. You didn't tell her what to write. She did what you asked. You have to get her the shoes."
OK, my dad redeemed himself a little bit there.
That's the story, it's all true and I'm sticking to it.
Josie
were you a "weirdo single hovah dude"?.
some examples i know of:.
single 'hovah dude, 40ish, mic handler, non-elder/ms, huge pot belly, rotten teeth.
I knew of a few single weird jw dudes at my hall. I know of one that got married to an elder's daughter. I think she married him cause there was no else to marry. It always seemed like a desparate marriage. Last I saw of them I was at a ob/gyn visit and she was pregnant, she didn't look happy and I felt sorry for her.
My mother has even tried to get me to consider marrying a weird jw dude only because he was in "the truth" ew! She even found one by placing a lonely hearts ad in some national tabloid. Now that was scarey.
I'll tell more of that story later.
Josie