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10 joelingeorgia in
it is my feeling that no other group of people face a life quite like those of us who are shunned by our family and social network.
the loss of both of these at the same time can do a enormous amount of emotional damage.
5 Almost_Did_It in
first i need to say that reading and being part of this online community is addicting... i keep telling myself to not read anything here because it just brings that bad taste back in my mouth... i tell myself that if i don't read the posts and occassionally post myself, that i will slowly start to forget everything i know or have learned about jws... but i can't seem to stay away long enough to have that happen... am i nuts, or what?.
anyway, one thing i have been thinking a lot about is something my study conductor used to say to me... that jws always, always put jehovah first, then they concentrate next on family, and, lastly, on the congregation... if all that is true, then why not just leave the rest of us alone... if your priorities are in this order, and the general population isn't even mentioned, then why chase us down, knocking on our doors trying to evangelize to us if you only care about the three things mentioned above... seems somewhat hypocritical to me.... you say you care about me but i am not one of the top three choices!
and then you talk about family being your second priority but in a second you are ready to cut ties and not speak to them if elders in the congregation determine that they are a "bad association.
17 AK - Jeff in
i have been out for 5 years.
my wife and i left together.
she saw the sham long before i did - though neither of us could 'put our finger on' what was wrong until we read coc, found the internet, etc.. i believe my wife leans toward atheism more than i do - i consider myself agnostic of the whole matter at this point.
43 oompa in
i have already lost nearly all my friends....maybe just a handful will even be social........but i so hate to lose my mom and dad and my jw son.....one is df......so he still shows that he loves me.....but damm........i so hate to lose the little bit of fam i have left.......is that normal?......stupid question.....i guess i know from my time here....i so hate these guys that can take them away.....oompa.
i know a bunch of you have done it.....just please help me through it...........
19 Almost_Did_It in
i think i finally realize whats been happening... as i said earlier, i almost took the plunge knee-deep into becoming a jw... i had many confrontations with my wife and others in my family, but i still continued to push forward.... .
itd been almost 2 years since i first was indoctrinated and 1.5 years since i have been studying... i studied with a friend who was also a co-worker.
we studied before or after work because it was convenient for us both.. .
11 Almost_Did_It in
why is it that the majority of witnesses seem to think they are "better" than the rest of us... i almost became an unbaptized publisher... i say almost... i was in and out for about 2 years, but always felt that the members of the congregation looked down on me... what is that all about?
how does that kind of behavior correlate to loving your neighbor and exuding love all the time... they talk about intense love and the condition of your heart... well, if the condition of their hearts is that they think and feel that they are better than everybody else, that just don't jive.... another question... anybody know how to get in touch with ex-jws in their geographic area> it would be great to talk to someone face-to-face :).