Posts by imissthedub

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Totally happy in your marriage?

by Lost Diamond in

how many of you are totally, incredibly happy in your marriage?

how many of you feel that your spouse is your absolute soul mate and you couldn't even imagine your being married somebody else?

talking with the women at work, i'm surprised at how many are not totally happy.

imissthedub

Hi!

Yes, people can stay happily married. Dave and I have been married for 29 years. I married him when I was 17 and he was 22. We were engaged at Christmas of my senior year and married in June. I always knew he was my soulmate, from the first time he kissed me. I started dating at 13 and had kissed other guys, but the first kiss told me. In fact, when I was 5 I walked up to my mom and said "When I grow up, I will marry a David" She asked why I thought that and I said "I don't know why, I just know."

We did not do things by "the rules". We choose to marry young, even though everyone said it would not work out to do so. We knew we did not want kids, so one of us was sterilized. Have not regretted that for even one day. We did not buy a home until I was almost 30, and then we did it backwards....buying a lakehome for weekends and retirement. After 10 years, we sold it and bought a house in the city where we work. It may not have been how most couples do it, but we followed OUR desires, not theirs.

Neither of us had sex til each other (of course I was still young and was after him all the time to "do it" and finally he did a week before my 16th birthday). Before we did it we prayed to God and asked him to marry us then. I believe He did. We used birth control always, even though all kinds of friends were not.

Then, when I turned 45 I went nuts. My hormones were CRAZY. I wanted sex all the time, about 3 or 4 times a day. Now Dave was 50 and he could make love once a day but I knew that was even unusual for a 50 year old, so I did not want to hurt his feelings and tell him I wanted more. So, dumb me, I started an internet affair. With a dub. And, no, I don't miss him anymore, but I did when I took this name. This site helped me quite a bit.

My husband stuck with me even though I told him I loved both him and the dub. It ended and took alot of therapy for me to get my head back together. There was some real lying and emotional abuse that took place. My husband never left me and talked to me as much as I needed about this person. To this day, I cannot believe his strength through it. He is the strongest, most faithful person I know.

He is honest, funny, handsome, my best friend and GREAT in bed. Also, he knows what stupid decisions I can make and still he loves me. ROFL.

And, let me tell you....I am now 47 and our sex life ROCKS. Oh my God......I liked sex before but this? This is to die for. We are totally comfortable with whatever the other wants, including dressing up in costumes (like a cowboy and saloon girl, etc) but WE DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH OTHERS OR INCLUDE OTHERS. Now, I am not saying maybe others can't do this and be happy, but we could not. Someone asked though, how sex is when you hit middle age.....baby....you don't really know HOW to do it until 45!

I thank God that Dave stayed with me AND that I did not actually meet this other person. He was a liar and a coward. Was married and lied about that, too, even when I ended up in hospital almost dead, he kept up the charade and even called me there. He was a witness from Columbia, TN. I won't name names but if anyone is from there, you probably know who the most charming man in your Hall is and also the biggest liar. I did end up calling his wife. Many of you will think that was wrong, but you don't know all the details. This man had to be stopped. Now, if she stays it is she that is the fool, not I.

Marriage for me has been a fantastic journey, and I took a wrong turn, but got back on the right path before the Big Bad Wolf actually got to get into my, ummm,,,,,picnic basket. lol

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Starting Over

by noidea in

jw
friends

this is it!

!..i start my new job tomorrow (in a different city) and i signed the lease on my apartment today..wish me luck

imissthedub

Hi Paula,

Hey, Congratulations!!!!! I am so happy and excited for you. I am not on much anymore, so just saw this on the 13th. Please email me and let me know how things are going. Don't forget to enjoy all the little things. You can do it....you already are. Just enjoy being free!

Luv on ya,

Imiss

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Top Ten Comments You Shouldn't Say At The Meeting

by NeonMadman in

this was forwarded to me today.

i thought it was moderately funny...

the top ten comments you don't want to say at the meeting.

imissthedub

"Sorry I am late, I got delayed while giving blood."

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Why do you believe???

by truthseeker1 in

i have a question for everybody.

it has probably been asked before, but i'll ask it again in case anyone changed their minds.... why do/don't you believe in god/god.

what give you faith in things not beheld/makes you not believe?.

imissthedub

I believe in God because I have had 4 miracles occur in my life. One prevented disfigurment as a child, one was life saving to me, one healed me of a disease and one healed my parrot who was carrying a fatal disease that had not broke out yet. Will not go on and on in detail on these miracles.

In regard to viruses, etc. God did not create anything bad, but he allows it is be created. I believe there is an evil force just as there is a good. Kind of like cause/effect day/night whatever. If one believes in good why would you not also admit evil existed.

God created us because He wanted to have a relationship with something/someone who could love Him back.....by their own free will. He is Love and love seeks it's own kind. But, if God just created beings that had no free will, could not make choices....well, they would not REALLY love Him. They would just be robots. Like Stepford Wives. In order to be able to make a choice between Him (Love) and something else there has to be something else to choose. So, I feel Evil is very real also and has very real power. Alot of the evil that occurs IS due to mankind. Even if it was done years ago. Now, I am NOT saying that if something bad happens to you (you lose a spouse, a child, etc) that YOU directly caused it. No. But somewhere in history things happened that have ripple effects that will effect us for years. Example: we create the automobile. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't thinks cars are evil. ROFL. They are great, get us places, can be beautiful, etc. BUT the creation does not come without cost. Common sense tells you that when you create a machine that can go fast there WILL be accidents. Because we have the freedom to drive too fast, to apply lipstick, talk on phone, fight w spouse, kiss spouse, etc all while driving. So, did God cause the accident? No. Is it someone's fault everytime there is a death, disease, etc. No, not in the present sense. But that is part of freedom. In order to choose good you must have the choice of evil. So, evil has created things too. Virus, bacteria, the inability for us all to get along because of EGO. I really wish I could explain this better. If you are interested in a discussion on this feel free to email me and we can have an ongoing discussion on it. Am not trying to convert anyone, I just luv to discuss this stuff.

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In MY kingdom hall........

by Pistoff in

there will be coffee in the back.

the format for thursday night will rotate, and will include slides, videos, improv talks about subjects speakers choose.

women will be elders and ms's......if they can be kings and priests with jesus, that's good enough for me; paul might not like it but he will get used to it.

imissthedub

Was never a dub....but almost and one reason I decided not to was their "worship" to music is a joke!

In MY Hall we will have loud, fast music (and some soft reverent music too) with people dancing, raising hands, clapping and actually smiling!!!! IF they want to. It anyone wants to just sing or sit or close eyes fine.....they will get to worship God as THEIR heart tells them to.

We will NOT follow some written lesson by a human. We will read the Bible and discuss what we read and then share experiences that apply and actually question what it may mean! Different opinions will be welcome cuz (gasp) it will actually make up THINK and study more. The Bible tells us in order to enter His kingdom we must become like little children. So many think that means blindly accepting what someone says. Come on. What is the one thing children do over and over and over? They ask "Why?" That tells me God wants us to ask why, too, because to get the answer we have to read and discuss and pray.

We will also dress as we see fit. If we want to wear a suit or dress, great. If we want to wear jeans and a clean shirt, great. If it is hot, shorts are fine. We will have enough sense to NOT wear anything that draws attention away from God (since that is why we are worshipping) like a thong bikini, but also enough sense that God knows what is in our heart regardless of if we try to hide in a suit or be comfortable in casual.

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it doesnt matter

by SpiceItUp in

it really doesnt.

it doesnt matter if i smile.

it doesnt matter if i laugh.

imissthedub

Great! ((((Spice)))) You will be ok. It comes and goes, but just remember.....whenever it comes it WILL go again.

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it doesnt matter

by SpiceItUp in

it really doesnt.

it doesnt matter if i smile.

it doesnt matter if i laugh.

imissthedub

Xena is right....taking the words from your post it did sound like you were referring to things you posted here. That is how it was interpeted. I cannot help how I read things, just as you cannot. I have no issue with anyone on here, but was trying to say that we ALL need to be aware that things can can miscontrued when you don't see a face or hear a person's voice.

I do think it is unfair, however, for you to come back and tell me how to respond to a post. At one time on another post, you had said that because you were new noone really cared about talking with you. I answered then and I did now. But, now you want to tell me HOW to answer. :) If you just needed a hug I did not read that there. I thought you were feeling bad about this board and lack of response.

You are not the only one to suffer from mental illness/depression...been there and will be again I imagine. I also have OCD. So, please realize that when you decide to analize what OTHERS reply to you you may be hurting them, too. I am not trying to cause bad feelings. I am just saying that when a person tries to respond they don't necessarily expect to be told they need to only respond in "correct" ways and that perhaps that person hurts at times as badly as you do. We would all like everyone to read and see things how we do. It does not happen in a perfect world.

I am sorry if I hurt you. That was not my intention. Perhaps it was not you intention to slap my wrist, either. If not, I will except that. If it was, thanks but no thanks. I don't need anyone telling me how or what I should say to people. I thought we were casual friends here. :)

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Sexuality in men and women

by imissthedub in

after responding to the nekkid women thread i got to thinking that i would like to hear more thoughts on this.

am i alone in thinking that lots of women have as great of interest in sex as men?

that they love it just as much or more?

imissthedub

Perfection Seeker: How true!!! It would be a dull world indeed if we did not ALL have fantasies. Anyone who thinks their mates always think of them everytime they think of sex is lying to themself. As my husband says "It is ok to read the menu, it is even ok to order an appetizer ....as long as you just look at it to whet ur appetitie for your "main course"." I agree. That is why I think sharing sexual fantasy is so important (no, I don't mean saying "Dam would I luv to do your little brother.....have SOME sensitivity) and role playing can add a whole new demension to ones sex life. I cannot count the cowboys, executives, park rangers, bible boys, bikers, etc. that I have had sex with.....but my husband plays them all. And I have been secretaries, strippers, saloon girls, campers, biker chicks, etc........we don't say "Hey, I really would like to do my secretary Sue....would you pretend you are her?" You should never make it a real person you associate with, but it is ok to say "I have always wanted to have a secretary who is ready and willing at any time." Sex is supposed to be FUN!!!! :)

Geez, my spelling SUCKS

Edited by - imissthedub on 15 July 2002 9:14:8

Edited by - imissthedub on 15 July 2002 9:15:45

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Sexuality in men and women

by imissthedub in

after responding to the nekkid women thread i got to thinking that i would like to hear more thoughts on this.

am i alone in thinking that lots of women have as great of interest in sex as men?

that they love it just as much or more?

imissthedub

After responding to the Nekkid Women thread I got to thinking that I would like to hear more thoughts on this. Am I alone in thinking that lots of women have as great of interest in sex as men? That they love it just as much or more? Just curious. I really don't care if I am the ONLY woman like this (heheh.....but I doubt it) cuz I am happy. But, geez, I just cannot believe so many people of my gender could not completely enjoy doin the thing that is the reason there ARE both male and female.

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Nekked women

by teejay in

i started to call this thread "porno" or something like that -- to get attention -- but since i don't know exactly what porno is, i thought i'd get down to the nitty gritty with the title.. here's the deal: i like looking at pics and/or live video or, if i'm lucky (or out of town) real live females who have no clothes on.

it's not something i do all the time, but when the mood strikes.... okay.

now, before i go any fu'tha, let me 'splain something.... i'm the type of guy that likes natural thangs.

imissthedub

Just adding my thoughts on this:

I have no problem with my man looking at naked pictures of women or adult movies. I do not care if he wants to go see a stipper. Now, if this was something he did all of the time and our sex life or other times where we should be having fun, etc were ruined, than I would say it was a problem.

My man does not care if I look at naked pictures of men or adult movies. Does not care if I want to see a male stripper. He hired one for the birthday one year.

We do not have sex with other people, but both feel it is human to want to look at people and that it is actuauly good for our marraige to do so. Erotic stories w/o pics are also big in our home.

I have as great of, or greater than, a sex drive as my husband. I do not particularly want to look at naked women, but they do not offend me. He is not offended with movies with men's cocks in them.....but then he is very well endowed.

I am surprised that some women OR men are upset by this....how insecure are they? Also, I think it is unfair to say that men like to do this more than women. It depends on the individual, not upon the gender.

My husband and I adore sex, vaginal, anal, oral, role playing, light b & d......but you see what is important here is that we TRUST each other and we are both SECURE and we give each other the RIGHT and the FREEDOM to enjoy and admit to love for sexuality. If more couples did that perhaps there would be less divorce and, ultimately alot more looking but alot less doin' of people other than your spouse.....cuz your spouse would be just too dam much fun to do!!!!!