Poor Places, recently I have been reading "The God Delusion" by Richard Dawkins. One of the things that struck me right away was that he did not put Buddhism into the same category of offending religions like Christianity and Islam, but rather considered it to be more of a philosophy.
Like you, what I've studied about Buddhism has brought me great peace. My recommendation would be to go back and read all the previous threads about Zen living if you haven't already.
I really appreciate the fact that Zen philosophy is not rigid but can be molded to fit your life in your own personal way. Try meditating both on your own and in a group. Find out what feels best for you.
I absolutely do believe it is possible to develop these qualities on your own but for some a support system of peers may be more helpful. Keep reading and applying all you learn.
Namaste.