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  What Do You Do for Work / Career?

  by BlackPearl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've been on the board for quite a while now and was wondering, what do my fellow jwdr's do for work, employment or career?

  me, i'm in probably one of the most hated careers in america right now.

  (not gonna tell you what it is either) but how about you, what do you do to earn a little coin?.

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  Bobbi

  I am a stay at home mom by day and Para's wanton sex goddess by night.
  
  Bobbi( so very tired)
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  Anyone from Calgary?

  by Bobbi in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last night i got a phone call from one of my oldest and dearest friends.

  we have been talking about doing some business together and i wanted to be honest with her about fading from the jw's.

  i told her that i was inactive and not planning on making any effort to return.

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  Money is not a big issue. I will call her as much as I can. The problem is, the time difference and three kids. Time is the issue.
  
  She doesn't have a computer at home and only limited access at the local library.
  
  Bobbi
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  Smell like a jock strap or like a perfumed girl? Shower Soap ?...

  by Little Drummer Boy in

  1. social
  2. humour

  on the strength that my recent post concerning cheetos went to 3 pages and was referenced in at least 3 other threads, i feel that the time has come to discuss another most important topic: shower soap.. this thread topic most definitely falls under the category of intellectual starvation topics, so you should be forewarned that terry will not approve.

  heh...(just funnin' yah terry).

  to the point: i here refer to a liquid soap meant to be applied to a wet shower poof and then scrubbed onto the skin.

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  What I don't understand is why on earth he can't just take the whole container of liquid man soap with him. Why does he have to put it in the little "please don't laugh at me, my mother makes me take this" container.
  
  Bobbi(who loves the smell of Para's aftershave)
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  Anyone from Calgary?

  by Bobbi in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  last night i got a phone call from one of my oldest and dearest friends.

  we have been talking about doing some business together and i wanted to be honest with her about fading from the jw's.

  i told her that i was inactive and not planning on making any effort to return.

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  Bobbi

  Last night I got a phone call from one of my oldest and dearest friends. We have been talking about doing some business together and I wanted to be honest with her about fading from the JW's. I told her that I was inactive and not planning on making any effort to return. She asked why? I asked her if she wanted the real reason or the sugar coated one and she asked for the truth. I said "Because I have lost faith in the society as God's earthly organization". She says "Wow, why?" I told her about 607 and about the blood fractions and mentioned the sept. KM. She put the phone down and I could hear her screaming in the back ground. I was a little worried and was very relieved when she got back on the phone and told me she had known for some time that there was something wrong with the organization and thanked me for telling her. That is when i told her about the court cases in the states. She was shocked.
  
  Now the hard part. She asked me what she should do now. She has been missing a lot of meeting lately anyway so missing more will not raise any flags. She is single and very alone in the city. She needs a support group like JWD to help her but has no computer and limited access to the internet at work.
  
  I will always be her friend and help from afar but I was hoping someone in Calgary could call her and talk to her as well. She needs someone to talk to who knows all the issues and can give advice on starting a new life away from the witnesses. If anyone can do this please PM me and I will set it up.
  
  Bobbi (Thrilled to have gotten one of her friends out of the Borg)
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  DAD'S how much time do you spend,,,,

  by Quentin in

  1. social
  2. family

  as a father, or grand father, do you get your kids up in the am, feed them breakfast and get them off to school?

  pick them up after school...take them to piano, or, any other activity?.

  if so, why... and for how long?.

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  Para also reads a book to the kids every night. He puts them to bed as well.
  
  He watches them Saturday mornings so I can do the grocery shopping (I know I know, i should be in service, GAG ME) and I can also go to other stores I normally don't take three active boys. It is really hard to look at bras with your sons asking questions I am just not ready to answer.
  
  He does "daddy day" with each child and they love it. All week long, "when is it my week".
  
  We also go to the pool as a family one night a week. I get one night to go to my exercise class as well.
  
  Para never looks at spending time with his children as "babysitting".
  
  
  Bobbi
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  At the hall last night

  by Shawn10538 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i went to the hall last night to get an insight book and a concordance.

  i had set it up with an elder ahead of time to get them.

  i arrived after the meeting had ended, walked up to the counter anxious to leave as quickly as i came when a big brother came up to me, planted his body in between me and the literature servant and started giving me the third degree about who i am, what is my standing in the congregation, and what did i want the books for.

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  Para got me an Aid book off Ebay.
  
  He asked me why I didn't just borrow his mother's copy.
  
  I just didn't feel right borrowing his pious JW mothers book to research why it is lies.
  
  Bobbi(wading through Crisis of Conscience)
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  How can I learn to more assertive?

  by Apostate Kate2 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i think this is left over from dubdays, dunno.

  when i need to be assertive i fizzle out.

  my husband was furious when he came home.

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  Being aware of your behavior is the first step.
  
  Yesterday I got a call from a Sister about a return I need to make(she is a rep for the company in question). In the course of the conversation another sister is brought up who also needs to do a return and I should get in touch with her. I said "no that won't work for me" and left it. The Sister who is also ms super wonderful pioneer, single mom with the world's most irritating child, says "Why Not?" The old me would say, "I Don't want to bother her" the new me said "Because I don't like her".
  
  Super Pioneer then asked "Why" after a long pause.
  
  My answer "Because I can't stand the way she shoves her handicapped son in my face all the time and can't talk about anything else. I have three healthy sons and don't feel the need to discuss hers all the time, so i try to avoid having anything to do with her".
  
  Longer pause
  
  Strangled sound.
  
  Super pioneer then goes back to discussing our business.
  
  I was feeling pretty good about saying what I really felt instead of doing the good Witless thing and bottling up my emotions. Then I realized, If super pioneer had called me back when I first told her about the return, I would have gotten free shipping.
  
  Oh well one battle at a time.
  
  
  Bobbi(hoping no one with a handicapped child takes offense, cause this person is really annoying and is so focused on her kid that everyone else must be too.)
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  What is the last really fun thing you did?

  by Sassy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  for me.. i guess it was attending comic-con.. there is still a bit of kid in me.. plus i got to go out with friends to dinner.. and dancing.. .

  had a blast... .

  so what was the last fun thing you did?.

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  I took my kids to the zoo with my best friend and her kids. It was wonderful!!! It was a bit cool out so the animals were really active and it rained a bit so all the other humans ran away. Two Mom's and 6 kids ages 20 months to 7 years, we had so much fun.
  
  Bobbi
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  Fun family study? Tolerable?

  by Gopher in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  was there ever such at thing in jw families, or is this phrase oxymoronic?.

  sometimes the meetings encouraged "variety" in family studies, assigning certain research projects to different family members, or setting up a bible reading as though it were a play.. none of that happened in my family.

  it was just dry question-and-answer.

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  Bobbi

  My poor mother tried so hard. I actually feel sorry for her about that.
  
  My sister and I made it so hard on her. We did the watchtower and mom would get us to read the paragraphs. That was easy for me but my sister is a poor reader and it was really hard on her. She always ended up in tears and mom would get even more stubborn and get the dictionary out if we didn't know the definition of a word.
  
  I have a vivid memory of my sister lying upside down on mom's bed with her head on the floor yelling "I HATE THIS".
  
  Mom gave up.
  
  
  Years later my dad tried to get it going again. Sunday morning, I would get home from work at 9 am, grab a cup of coffee and my books and sit in the livingroom. We didn't talk but we all sat together and underlined that days study article. I actually enjoyed that time with them.
  
  Bobbi (realizing she does have some good memories)
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  The Sh** has hit the fan.....

  by ex-nj-jw in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  mom called me, she got my letter.

  yeah you guessed it, i am the devil himself.

  she told me to never again speak to her, because i'm evil and satan has taken over my mind, body and any common sense she ever gave me .

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  *hugs* You don't deserve to have a mother like that. Your parents sound so much like mine and they don't know I am fading, that will be a nasty day for sure. Not much you can do, You know how you feel about your kids and you wonder why your own mother doesn't have the same feelings towards you. Very depressing. Not a whole lot I can offer to comfort you other than I feel for you.
  
  Bobbi (who thinks some women are just a incubator and not mothers)