JG: You got my sympathy, because if she's returning to the JWs after a 12 year absence, there's got to be some serious issues going on inside her. But then agian, addiction is a terrible beast.
As for the kids: How old are they? Does she actually listen to what they say, assuming that they have at least some opinions already formed. I started having my crisis of conscious when I was eight over the blood issue. Other things came later.
Personally, I'm watching my own marriage crumble but for different reasons. But I find it interesting that since my wife grew up in a group-oriented society/culture, she doesn't like to think for herself, much like the JWs. No matter how much i try to talk her, she doesn't want to listen to me because I don't think like how her group says she must think. Thus, my opinion is wrong and isn't too be listened to.
So, I think if your wife is really into the JWs, give it up. Save the kids. But if she shows any cracks in her faith, I'd show her the UN-JW connection. If there's anything besides the Catholic Church that the JWs love to needle and harp on, it's the UN.
Also, don't worry if you get divorced. Realize this: do you want to live in hell for the rest of your life? Just get a good lawyer and fight for custody of the kids on the grounds that she is placing them in a religious cult and they don't have the freedom to choose.
Take care,
the dustrabbit
To do list:
1.Still waiting to goose the Organization.