Posts by Effervescent

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Walmart Rage (MeLTdOwN)

by MsMcDucket in

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man!

wtf is wrong with people in walmart?

did they leave their manners at home?!

One of the only times in my life I've gotten into a screaming match with someone was at Wal-mart. (The other was a coke-head x-employer) Someone decided I was taking too long at the customer service counter and thought it would be a good idea to start talking very loudly about how rude *I* was to everyone in line behind her. She had no idea what was going on, and the delay was definatly no fault of mine, on top of the fact that another employee at the counter mysteriously disappeared while there was a line forming. I guess she was just pissed in general that day because someone dropped a house on her sister.

I got right up in her face and told her exactly what I thought of her and which orifice she could stick her ignorant opinions in. I don't think my husband's ever been prouder of me- lol!

The huge-group-standing-in-the-middle-of-the-aisle-talking thing is a huge pet peeve of mine. Friggin get out of the road already!

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becoming a jehovah's witness

by pcecilia in

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hello all who may read this, i am in the midst of writing a story, and a character who has appeared in the story is a jehovah's witness... i am attempting to gain a better understanding of the religion and its practitioners so as to present witnesses in a fair light... i am of no religious affiliation, but i assume that anything that a person believes is valid as long as they have put it through much consideration and thoughtfulness...

) of you are ex-witnesses, but i would like to know about what first attracted you to the religion to begin with... was it just passed down in your family, or did you make a conscious choice to become a witness?

if so, for what reasons?

Effervescent

it seems that you were all able to go through a complete rebirth after leaving the religion, and rebirth is a pretty valuable thing a lot of people do not ever achieve

Respectfully-

Personally speaking, the moment or process of clarity has been less a brilliant shining moment in my life, and more an emotionally crippling one. Many of us have experienced severe mental and emotional trauma by the hands of the only ones we were allowed to trust. The effects of this don't go away in a moment of rebirth. I continue to struggle with issues of self-worth, isolation and extreme sadness. Most of my family has deemed me unsuitable for even casual acquaintance based on my rejection of their faith. My children will never know their grandparents (who are alive and healthy) and are thought of as "as good as dead".

I would give up a whole lifetime of introspection and self-discovery for a childhood filled with love and security instead of manipulation, fear, brainwashing, insecurity, hate and lies.

As Warlock suggests, it's impossible to know the heart of the matter unless you've walked a mile in an X-JW's shoes....

I do see your point though. If there is anything my struggle has made me passionate about, it is that my children will never doubt my love for them, and will always be encouraged to be the brilliant individuals they are. I believe their journeys of self-discovery will be just as sweet because of their security in this knowledge.

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Rosie O'Donnell's Outrageous Cure For Diaper Rash!

by SWALKER in

(taken from the tucker carlson show on msnbc).

next up, rosie o?donnell and her seconds week as one of the ladies on ?the views,?

over on abc.

Effervescent

That's disgusting on so many levels.

I hope she saves enough of her millions to pay for therapy for her children when they get older.... they're going to need lots of it.

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Sisters, did you feel inferior to Brothers?

by JH in

having less privileges than brothers, did you feel inferior or simply different?.

would you have prefered to be treated equally to brothers, but with all the responsibilities that go with it?.

Effervescent

I just remembered that both men and women were of the anointed (probably more women than men based on the KH demographics) and I reminded men at the KH of that.

I don't know why this just struck me as a very good point. If women were to be "Kings & Priests" in heaven... why couldn't they hold leadership positions in the congregation? There is no mention of any distinction in the "heavenly hope" that I can think of... but I could be missing something?

Now my wheels are turning...

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Did You Shun Someone?

by Country Girl in

how did you feel when you met the person in public that you were shunning?

what were you thinking as you were shunning the person?

did you think about what other witnesses were thinking if you did not want to shun the person?

Effervescent

Yes, I shunned my own Mother.

I made the decision when I was in Junior High after an intensive "Family Study" where my Father made it clear associating with disfellowshipped persons was not appropriate for baptised ones. I did it because I desperately craved his love and approval, but to this day I'm ashamed I'd do such a thing.

I re-established contact with her when I was a Senior in high school and ran away from home to stay with her the very next day. We've repaired our relationship, and now my Father is the one not "associating" with me. I guess I couldn't have them both....

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What Music WERE You Allowed To Listen To?

by gaiagirl in

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ok, so we've talked before about music which was not permitted in our families, leaving us to listen to .... what?

most people in my congregation generally approved of olivia newton-john, but became suspicious of her work after grease, when she bacame a "bad" girl.

one song "landslide" contained the lines "minor desires became major needs, my needs won't be denied", which was taken as proof that she had gone over to the "dark side".

Effervescent

Growing up we were pretty much limited to what my Dad subjected us to- The horrifying list includes such names as-

Kenny G

John Denver

The Mamas and the Papas

Gordon Lightfoot

The Beach Boys

Air Supply

Anne Murray

.... I apologize if anyone here is a big fan of any of these... but after listening to the "Edmund Fitzgerald" song about five billion times... it makes me feel like poking my eardrums out with sharp scissors thinking about it.

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IF YOU COULD GO BACK IN TIME WOULD YOU MARRY YOUR SPOUSE?

by Dansk in

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i've been thinking a lot about this lately and i would unhesitatingly say 'yes!'.

we've had our ups and downs - almost always my fault .

my god, how our upbringing can affect us!

Effervescent

What a sweetie you are! That was a GREAT post Dansk!

I would marry my hubby again in a heartbeat. We've been together for almost 6 years and it just keeps getting better and better. I used to think that "Soul Mate" was a term Hallmark made up to sell more cards on Valentines. Now I have my very own!

(Like Lisa, though, I'd be bypassing a former, not so brilliant marriage decision!)

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I really want to do this..........but dont know if I should

by vitty in

im really ,seriously considering having a tummy tuck next year.

i want to know if sometimes they dont work.

its a lot of money if you dont get the results you want.

Effervescent

I don't think there's anything wrong with giving nature a little help in defying gravity. After having four kids of my own, I totally hear where you're coming from!

I would give two tiny little pieces of caution...

Do your research on any breast implants if you even think of having that done. There's been quite a few "high profile" individuals in the media being quite vocal about how they can affect your health in the long term. It gives you something to think about.

And secondly- You get what you pay for! Don't go to the least expensive doc around. Go to someone who really really knows what they're doing and you'll more than likely be much happier with the results.

Other than that, just remember that you are beautiful the way you are... the rest is just gravy.

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Who Pioneered?

by sass_my_frass in

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my two sisters did the right thing, pioneering straight out of school, janitoring to pay for the petrol (one didn't even bother with her final year of school).

it was this kind of fine example that got me guilt-tripped into auxiliary pioneering just after getting baptised at age 20. i only lasted six months; i took a holiday in queensland and returned not knowing much more about life but at least that it's bigger than my little congregation.

i despised the field service, i dreaded the daily schedule and every morning i was on my way out there was this awful countdown from the alarm going off to the first door opening, knowing that it's just a big setup to another depressing humiliation.

Effervescent

I Aux. Pioneered every summer from the time I was about 14. (I don't specifically remember what age) I did it because I liked the praise I got from doing it, and was desperate for love and approval. Like you I hated every single second of it. I would wake up in the morning with a pit in the bottom of my stomach that wouldn't go away until after the last door was knocked on.

The summer between my Junior and Senior year in HS was my last time doing it. I left home and left all that garbage behind and couldn't be happier about it!!!

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Not enough words to tell you about it.

by Sparkplug in

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so at work i am a pretty chicken kind of person as far as the rules.

i usually walk the line and follow all of the code of business conduct things put upon me.

well last month the declared a surplus at my job.

Effervescent

OH GIRL- I think you and I were sister in a former life!

I have this problem too, and HATE myself for it more often then not. I NEVER cry when I'm sad, or hardly ever. I'm more apt to clam up and be the stoic one when everyone else is bawling. But when I'm pissed- the waterworks turn on.

I've always atributed it to the whole control thing with the Witnesses, and I was always SOOOO afraid to rock the boat. So when something happens that I can't control and makes me angry, I think it's always been my outlet. At least for me, for so long it was the ONLY way I had to express my frustration.

I don't know what to say to help honestly, and I'm actually just as interested in the responses you get. I can say it gets better with time though. I've learned more and more to open my mouth and TELL people when I'm pissed, which is one of those "Practice makes Perfect" kinda things. Just be careful- I've found out that once the floodgates open, there's no telling what might fly out of your mouth. Ask me how I know!