Far be it from me to jump in, but I was DF'ed once for fonicating with a man...OH my. One of the elders on my committee had a son who did the same thing right about the same time, The son was not Disfellowshipped.
I was disfellowshipped the second time for commiting adultry after I got tired of having my 115 lb body beat by my 6 ft 8 husbands hands, (I asked for help from the elder in my congregation and none came.) I found out later the elder I asled for help repeatedly beat his family members. Oh and one of his daughters was a child molester. Both still witnesses, and not disfellowshipped.
Begged and looked real sorry for years, and was refused time and again, by an elder who committed adultry during that time of refusing to meet with me, with one of the pioneers. He was never disfellowshipped.
Finally got back in and went to a public park to meet someone who left poetry on my car and was raped. Brutal and all. Who would believe me with my crazy DF'ede self. I will never be REPENTAT for being raped. I was disfellowshipped and the good ol' boy is back in the pack and married o a nice witness gal.
I have a sister that was GY and never was disfellowshipped. She is now married to a man, so they think she is all cured. (BTW I dont have anything against being gay.
BUT MOSTLY ...
BUT I have a family member who went to prison for child MOLESTATION. Got out, and still has never been DF'ed. Some people avoid him, and some actually load his car with kids to go to assembly. Still in the congregation. I am not angry anymore, but do not tell me that they do not cover up and protect very harmful people. My sisters and one brother and I were molested by someone(S) in the congregation while young and no one ever threw them out, and no one ever asked me for a reason for my crazy behavior. NOR HELPED.
I found we were exposed to at least 13 Rapist and Child molesters in my short life, and I do not condem the truly caring people that exist in the congregations, I just do not want to put my children into an organization, MAN Made organization where they may have to pay such a high price and possoibly be targeted because the sheeplike are easy prey. They know about God, and they are given open minded things to think about... Mostly they are alowwed to THINK!