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  Well, now THAT was exciting! :o)

  by onacruse in

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  we're in the middle of a little windstorm here (portland, or).

  not much of one, really, compared to some of the others i've experienced here.. about 11 p.m. bikerchic and i heard something hit the house, and there was a pretty good thud on the ground.

  i thought that it was probably just a big branch, but bikerchic came running in and said: "did you hear that?

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  so I put on my pants and did my husbandly duty.

  Must ... not ... reply

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  Glad you both are okay, and I hope the damage will not be too much, do you have insurance for this?
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  APOSTASCOTLAND

  by Dansk in

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  2. friends

  would someone seriously consider arranging for an apostafest up in scotland next year?

  i know i'm asking this early but i feel it would be good to put the feelers out now.. obviously, it would have to be a location easy to get to - so that means stornoway is out!

  sorry, ross & xena.

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  I'll consider it, would be nice to see all of you. But do they have good margarita's in Scotland?
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  CHOCOLATE - it's not just for breakfast anymore.

  by AWAKE&WATCHING in

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  2. friends

  i love chocolate.. favorite cake - chocolate with raspberry sauce.

  favorite movie treat - sno-caps.

  favorite ice cream - spumoni (chocolate,strawberry and pistachio).

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  Chocolate LETTERS.

  Sinterklaas has come to Holland and brings loads and loads of these yummy's
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  A womans tears

  by Maverick in

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  2. relationships

  this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

  this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

  my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.

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  I laugh a lot too - and very loud. I usually am overly cheerful in company. Which is not really good cuz most of the time I just wanne curl up and nurture my for-ever-pounding head (chronich headache).

  But when people come over, I just turn a switch and become "cheerful me". I can't even help it.
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  A womans tears

  by Maverick in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  this is really for the guys, but i know the woman here will have some great insights for us stupid men so i hope y-all will offer up your best.. when the woman i am with starts to tear up or cry i feel totally helpless and useless.

  this is one of the most dreaded situations i as a man can ever find myself in.

  my older brother, the retired police chief, would get angry if a woman started to cry when he was writing her a ticket, he felt it was an act.

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  Very coowl.

  I can't cry at all. I am in therapy over it actually. I cannot cry!

  Ok, I can cry in private and total solitude. And I cried when my now-ex told me he cheated on me - in front of him - god I hated that. In all other situations when someone really hurts my soul, I just turn on my Prozac smile and freeze.
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  Watchtower's annual Christmas edition - such hypocrisy!

  by ozziepost in

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  2. bible

  isn't it amazing to see that the wts are fond of decrying christmas, yet each year they publish a christmas edition of the watchtower magazine!.

  they make all sorts of claims about christmas and how wrong it is and all that but never fail to bring feature articles in thir december issues that take advantage of that.. what hypocrites!.

  http://www.watchtower.org/e/20021215/article_01.htm.

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  Hey Andy Not much at the moment. How are you?

  Many a time I would be invited by a sister to spend the first or second Christmas day at her place for dinner. NOT Christmas ofcourse, but just dinner - cuz the wordly holidays made everyone feel lonely.
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  What would you have "secretly" brought with you into the New System?

  by JH in

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  surely my 600+ mp3 music

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  Ozzie, I have a collection of those crosses that would make your eyes dazzle.

  LOL
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  "A MAN WITHOUT A COUNTRY"

  by Bourne in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  since coming to the realization that the jw religion does not hold all the answers, let alone most, the above statement describes me to a "t".

  i'm separated from my wife, an almost certain divorce is on the horizon, and because of now being "inactive", with the exception of my family, i have seemingly lost what friends i had.. i can't bring myself to fully embrace "worldly" thinking about many things, yet, as long as i am not an "active" member of the collective, i have no chance of making friends.

  in an earlier post, someone asked me the pointed question, "what do you want?

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  All the great advice has been given already, so I cannot ad something completly new and brilliant to you.

  Give yourself time to grieve. You cannot expect yourself to turn a switch and be all free, all of a sudden.
  Allow yourself to question things - like the term 'wordly' - why do they use that name, what does it mean for a JW, what does it mean for you. And allow yourself to get angry and vent (here or with a counsellor, not to the brothers).
  And believe that will make new friends, and will rebuilt a social life, and you will be happy.

  As for your family, I can relate to that. When I dicided on a course of action that would get me DF'd, I phoned my mother cuz I was terrified she would start to shun me. She didn't cuz she was not hardcore like me, but it was my greatest fear. My mum is still technically a JW, but as inactive as you can get - this allows her to still say "hi" to the dubs.
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  Watchtower's annual Christmas edition - such hypocrisy!

  by ozziepost in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  isn't it amazing to see that the wts are fond of decrying christmas, yet each year they publish a christmas edition of the watchtower magazine!.

  they make all sorts of claims about christmas and how wrong it is and all that but never fail to bring feature articles in thir december issues that take advantage of that.. what hypocrites!.

  http://www.watchtower.org/e/20021215/article_01.htm.

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  My guess it's to keep the rank and file sort of happy. I guess the GB knows very well that most JW's secretly wish for Christmas (they did in my cong anyway) and this is a confirmation of their faith and resolution to stay strong.

  And yeah, they are hypocrites.
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  Is it okay for JW to lie?

  by averyniceguy in

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  is it okay for jw to lie?

  for what reasons?

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  Did they have a Christmas tree at Bethel ??